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My thoughts on NTR (Not game related)
🕑 Added 2021-03-26 23:01:29 +0000 UTCHi guys,
Today I wanted to talk a little about NTR and my thoughts on the topic. I know that this was always a huge divisive issue in my content, and a lot of people hate this fetish. This is coming from a very emotional place on either camp, and has fascinated me for quite a while. I also wanted to give you a bit of a perspective on why I enjoy NTR personally. This post will be one that's quite personal, so if you're not really into learning about me, you can go ahead and skip this one :)
I think the general consensus by today's standards is that someone who wants and enjoys the fact that their significant other cheats on them is strange, weird, or at least uncommon. I definitely would not say that I like NTR in public, in fear of judgement. There are a couple of distinct differences in this dynamic:
Cuckolding: The man actively pushes his significant other (SO) to be with other men. Both the man and his significant other knows he has this fetish, and the significant other partakes.
Netorare, reluctant: This is when the man does not want his SO to cheat on him, but it happens anyways. He finds out after the fact that the cheating has already occurred. He is reluctant and wants it to end.
Netorare, passive: Same as before, but he allows it to happen.
The fascination I have with this topic is; some love this while others hate it.
Many people assume that if one were to enjoy fetishes as NTR or cuckolding, one would either have been hurt previously, or is considered a "limp beta male". This may be so for some people, but I do not feel like this is an accurate description of me in this fringe population.
The reason I got into making games and comics was because I was missing something in my life. I've always had long term relationships with high quality women in my life, and I have never been cheated on. I noticed a change in my mid to late 20s, when my career started to pick up, and I started to work out. In my perception, women were more attracted to me, and enjoyed my presence more. This was not really a problem, because I was happily married at the time. Unfortunately what started to develop in my psyche ate away at me until I had to end my marriage. Typically, when a man is in a relationship, he would feel insecure if he other men were attracted to his SO. The problem with me was that I felt like she would never leave me, in any situation. It became too easy, and I started to lose interest. I was subconsciously telling myself that if there was no way she would leave me for anyone else, that means that I could most certainly get a better partner. I know this is a horrible thought, but I could not help repeating it in my head. I even pushed her to dance with other guys at the club, and she could never bring herself to do it, which decreased my interest in her even more.
I know what a lot of you may think when reading this; "This guy is a douche bag and is full of himself," or "He doesn't know how good he has it. He's going to regret it." Unfortunately, like a lot of things, my life did not turn out to be like what you would expect. It hurts me to this day that I broke up the marriage, because I genuinely cared about my ex-wife as a person and friend, but this instinct to move on was too strong. I'm not proud of what I did, but I could not handle the relationship anymore and even had a mid life crisis. I'm now in a relationship with a younger woman (Yes, I get judged in public and in private). I've asked her to do the same thing, but she is unwilling, and is too scared of losing me. To be honest, this is deterring me again, and my instinct is pushing me to move on once more.
The reason I wanted to bring this up is to show people that not all NTR lovers are beta males who are not able to stand up for themselves. I know some of you will get triggered, and have no sympathy for me, but I just wanted to share why I personally enjoy this fetish, and why I started work on this sort of content. Thanks for the read, and if you made it this far, I hope you don't judge me too harshly.
Comments
Hakkira
Interesting to hear someones honest perspective :) Thaks for opening up on a fetish many would be too afraid of revealing.
3Diddly
Thanks buddy. I think one of the things that a woman would enjoy from NTR is that they would enjoy a high status male's attention, and in turn feel an elevation in status in return. Feeling wanted is an aphrodisiac for female sexuality, but it is balanced by insecurity. What if the high value man just wants to be a playboy? What if there is no future with him? The insecurity is what holds people back in real life in my opinion. If you disagree or have a different point of view, I would love to hear it. People who enjoy NTR are definitely the minority, so if you haven't talked to your partner about it, the odds are against you that he enjoys it too unfortunately.
Dominique
I remember writing you on F95 a long time ago on how profoundly Hannah's Corruption infuenced my thoughts on this matter and my own sexuality. I would have loved to pick your brain like this back then. It's a brave thing to open up like that. Kinks are kinks. We all have them, there is no point in judging others for theirs. I think it is important for our personal growth to look at the why instead of the what. A fetish (if you want to call it that) like this is the result of the desires that make it manifest. From a female perspective on this topic, I am still not quite sure why I enjoy it. It is certainly the dominance implied in it, but also the taboo of someone taking something 'sacred' (i.e. someone else's girl) just because they can and disregarding the emotional impact of it. I am surprised it influenced your life like this. I don't think I would do this to my partner in RL, at least unless they ask me to. I am fine with it being a fantasy as in reality there is a lot of other factors that influence us of course. Hannah and to a higher degree, Katie's Corruption are such classics in the genre because they were among the first to be so unapologetic about their approach. The stories were raw and direct. It shows that they were your outlet and people can relate to that.
