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LOCKTOBER SPECIAL (SD) PART 1 : WHYYYYYY?
🕑 Added 2020-10-08 09:50:34 +0000 UTC(There have been reports of display issues on the Patreon App, if you can't see images in the body of this post or images look pixelated, try viewing via desktop browsers)
This Feature will come in 2 parts; with Part 1 covering why I think Locktober is a healthy thing, and Part 2 (coming later this month - once i've gathered more experience) covering the do's and don't of wearing a Lock!
If you asked me a few years ago what Locktober was I'd probably have no idea! But recent explorations into the world of kink has totally opened up a new world of adventures to me.
So what is Locktober for? There are many answers to this but I'm going to guide you through my personal understanding and why i think its important.
I am a guy who used to be addicted to masturbatin'. There's nothing wrong with satisfying yourself, in fact in can be quite healthy but in my case it left me unfulfilled with sex for a few reason; i did it way too often, whenever I wanted, it became routine/ritualistic, and it was antisocial because well other people couldn't satisfy me the way I wanted/expected to be satisfied. In short I had fallen into a trap many your men are falling into.
However I found that a Lock offered a incredible healthy fix and addition to giving me a healthier sexual lifestyle.
I think the first thing to cover is Sex Drive. Like it or not many of us have a sex drive. Some of us are hungry all the time and some of us are quite content and don't need much of it. In a world where everything is conveniently available, sex and online adult sites have dominated many young guys daily lives. Men can find sexual release available and convenient whenever they like thanks to the internet. There have been many nights in the past when i would spend hours in front of the PC browsing continuously for the wank bank. I would be drained the next day and when my partner asked me for sex, I simply would have the drive to. Locking yourself prevents you from accessing yourself to satisfaction and allows you to save it to spend with your partner.
Saving it and Savouring it
This means doesn't mean you are saving it for the right person or anything so noble. It simply means that you're not needlessly masturbatin' out of habit, much like a similar ethos to No Fap! By locking up your junk, you cannot get instant access to your private bits. As the days go buy you'll discover the desire to ejaculate increase, making it ever harder to control. You'll find that you start getting spontaneous erections and leaking precum uncontrollably more and more often. But because you can't satisfy yourself fully, your brain savors every little bit of stimulation. This is basically a kind of mindfulness training. You very much become the moment; and you and you penis have a direct connecting. One that is heightened and sensitive. As your penis grows out of control it pushes on your cage which pulls on your balls also. Mixing pleasure and pain into a ecstatic mix. You're yearning for sexual release and your penis is limited. Instead you start learning how to find please with other parts of your body ....
More to a Man
There's more to a man than his penis! During lockdown with a cage the most sensitive parts to your penis is not accessible. Your head, glans, frenulum and shaft are completely out of reach. You realise simply how overpowering your penis is at satisfying your needs compared to the rest of your body. But theres no choice, you simply have to move on and listen to the other parts of your body. You can perhaps play with your balls which is pretty satisfying. However what you'll start to notice is that there are other parts of your body that are just as satisfying and sensitive as your penis! These might be your nipples, your neck, your back, your feet, your ass and maybe even your hole. Cages help open you to a world of sensations that you may have neglected over the years! Learning how to touch and play with these parts can make you a better sex partner. Learn to listen to your body and you'll not only be able to pleasure yourself in ways you never knew how to before, but you'll also know how to pleasure other people in new and exciting ways also.
Power and Control
Playing with yourself is one of the most incredibly satisfying things ever. The problem with masturbatin' is that there's no mystery, this I had to learn and accept was a problem. You know exactly how you like to be touched, how long it will take, it's practically a routine you can do blindfolded (which is incredible but another story to itself). So why don't you get off the driving seat and let someone else please you the same way? Is it truly because they cannot satisfy your or is it because you actually suck at communicating your needs to other people?
For once in your life, someone else will dictate whether you've earned the right to release. Maybe you haven't given your partner enough attention yet. Maybe you haven't communicated well enough your needs . Or maybe they like to see you yearn for release because they get a kick out of it. Either way giving control to someone else other than yourself means to give yourself an adventure that you haven't planned. Communicate your needs and work for it! Earn it, serve your master and he will reward your with the best release ever. Sex should never be routine. It should always be a thrilling adventure that is always leaving you on the edge of excitement.
It's only been a week but already wearing a Lock has taught me a lot about myself and is starting to impact me in a healthy and profound way. I hope that this post has been useful in explaining a bit about how i found Locks and cages to be helpful and I hope you too will join be it currently October or even afterwards throughout the year to wearing a lock.
More to come real soon!
- Monkeygogo
Comments
I think its fun and important to share these experiences. We are all learning
Jarrod
This was a great read, thanks for taking the time to write it all down.
