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A Frank Discussion About Friends
🕑 Added 2023-01-31 04:16:08 +0000 UTCHello, I’m Frank, and welcome to my ted talk (not really, it's still me, your friendly neighborhood writer man). Today I’ll be talking about one of the most important facets of our lives.
Friends. They are great, truly they are, but sometimes, over the course of years or sometimes decades, a friendship begins to rot. Or perhaps we simply change and in the end it's no longer something that we can, or should maintain. This was a realization I’ve had a long time ago, but never quite had the emotional strength to really see through to the end.
You see the logical conclusion of such an epiphany is that those toxic friendships are ended. Yet at the time, no matter how frankly terrible they might be, I still felt as though I needed them. Though rotten, they were a crutch that kept me from falling apart completely. Now, however, I can stand on my own, and finish this rather convoluted metaphor quite neatly.
So it is with a somewhat heavy, yet glad heart, that I announce that I have cut off a bunch of these friendships over the past month. What does this mean for you? Well quite simply, I’ve been miserable for a very long time, but I feel so much better already. I’ve also been chatting with a mental health professional and taking some time to put my head back together.
With all that said and done, I’m happy to announce that I’ll be doubling my daily workload, and dramatically increasing what I aim to complete in a day. My output has been shit these past few months but my life has been through a bit of turmoil I finally feel like it is settling down. Fingers crossed anyway. I’ve said “I’m finally free/better” a few times I know, but the difference between then and now is that before I never quite had the strength to cross that final bridge. Now with it done though, I genuinely feel like a new person.
Thank you all for standing by me. You have no idea what your support means to me. <3
Jest.
Tldr: Got some counseling, ditched a bunch of abusive/shitty friends, and turned my mental health around after it being pretty terrible for a very long time. Part 1 of the new year's resolutions is checked off!
Expect a bunch more updates before the end of the month (So like, tomorrow)
Comments
tom
Glad you have a professional to talk to ta help you sort out your feelings and mental aspects its always the hardest part trusting someone new with your thoughts and feelings but it will get bring progress if you continue
Nightwing
Understood and thank you as well
Jest
Thank you for your kind words. I hope you get out of whatever is hanging onto you as well. I suffered under one particularly unpleasant 'freindship' for nearly a decade even though it was bad nearly the whole time. Never underestimate the weight of inertia, but also don't underestimate your own value. Honestly, I need to get back to work. Nothing quite helps keep the stress low like knocking a chapter or two out. I still genuinely enjoy writing and being kept from it due to poor mental health has had a bad cumulative effect on me.
Nightwing
I'm happy for you my dude, truly. I know for a lot of people myself included, that we feel like we're obligated to carry on a relationship that's ultimately killing us inside. And cutting off those people can be some of the hardest steps to take. But when it's done, it's like a weight is finally lifted. I'm looking forward to your continued progress, I just ask that you don't overtax yourself. /)
