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Your dominant preferences say the following things about your life skills
🕑 Added 2024-09-09 09:06:54 +0000 UTCA dominant once tried to teach me a life lesson through the pain of a BDSM scene. I don’t participate in power exchange for the life lessons, but if I did, I would be damned careful that my dominant could live well himself. This top could not. The chaos of his existence muddied every aspect of his life from the career he’d never got around to nurturing to the crack house of a home he shared.
Achieving the perfect SpanishRed Life is like solving the Navier-Stokes equation. While climbing Everest. On stilts. With Richard Dawkins screaming at you.
My life is complicated. I must achieve balance if I’m to keep my chronic illness at bay. I must juggle 24-hour deadlines and keep my creativity burning because every day is writing day. Finally, I must stay on top of my depression. In any given week, I have to juggle blood tests, doctors’ visits, and deadlines, to say nothing of doggo love and friendships.
I’ve spent 28 years mastering that. I might not be the best person to manage your life, but I’m a pro with mine, so I balk when dominants brag about guiding their lowly subs towards a better quality of life.
No, I don’t trust you with that. It was never my kink anyway.
You’re not qualified to “help” me live well. Your discipline will only enhance your own self-esteem. You’re probably not what I look for in a mentor anyway.
I’m not a sub because I’m bad at my job or lack the social skills to maintain my friendships. The kinky framework I enjoy doesn’t negate my ability to build a lifestyle infrastructure either. Quite the opposite. If there’s one thing I know, it’s how to manage my quirky body.
Submission is a choice, not a form of incompetence. We might like to serve. We might like a particular brand of sex and a dominant partner, but none of these things translates into a need for guidance.
Even if your life is a grand success, you cannot know what living well means for me. If you want to be my life coach, please produce the appropriate paperwork and stop fucking me.
Your dominant label exists because you gave it to yourself. You picked it off a dropdown menu and flogged a few people. What you didn’t do is win guruhood as a super fantastic life coach. Your dominant preferences say the following things about your life skills:
* -1) Crickets
* -2) Crickets
* -3) Crickets
At the heart of every healthy dynamic is love, and that requires dominants to see their subs for who they are. The mere fact that you assume all s-types need rescuing speaks to your poor opinion of us.
You’re not a dominant until you earn someone’s submission, and that requires humility, not a swaggering Chopra-esque view of submission. To earn that kind of respect, you need to look up to your sub, not down. If you’re choosing TPE because you assume all slaves are life-stupid and you’re superior, you’re missing the point.
