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Are your standards too high?
🕑 Added 2023-09-26 00:38:22 +0000 UTCWe live in strange times. We have never had so much access to pictures of women and to possible dating opportunities, but never has an average man struggled so much both in and out of relationships. Men are simple creatures: we can rattle off what we want in a women very quickly when asked. Women not so much. They often meander through strange and lengthy lists of what they would like in man and contradict themselves, but that's a conversation for another day.
A lot of men feel like they can't reach a women's standards. They fall for the superficial preselection they display on dating apps, street interviews, and white claw power hours and lose hope. Men naturally are pragmatists so they often "lower their standards" silently to have access to sex, intimacy, and ultimately relationship. We see it all the time.
So, my question to you is...are YOUR standards too high?
First off, ask yourself, what are your standards?
Hopefully you prefer women that are not overweight and that's a good start. Do you have a racial preference? Do you have an age preference? Ask yourself these things.
Next, ask yourself if you have been positioning yourself and taking action to meet these standards to yourself at least halfway.
Examples:
If you like southern girls, are you making arrangement to move to a southern city?
If you like fit gym girls, are you fit yourself?
If you want to passport bro it up in LatAm, are you hiring a spanish tutor?
Finally, are your standards realistic? Listen, my dream is half Dominican, half Japanese gal with C-cups who sweet, 5'6", long black hair, and gives me good anime recommendations but that's an ideal, not a standard.
Realize too that while attractiveness is important and the foundation for a relationship with her also have standards for her behavior. Really sit down with yourself and VET YOURSELF before you take the plunge, meaning, what are your boundaries. A thin waist and nice ass is not an excuse for you to overlook her boundary-violating qualities.
Things like finances, genetic conditions, venereal diseases, family situation should also be considered. Realize too that sometimes there are things that bother other men but would not bother you. Maybe you don't mind that she shows extra cleavage when you go out. Maybe you don't mind her $10,000 in debt as long as she is paying it off. Maybe you don't mind her herpes because you have it too. Who knows? Make sure you understand that other men's standards are not necessarily your own.
In conclusion, it's not about lowering your standards but having the RIGHT standards for you. After all, TRP and dating is about you and you only.
Good luck,
Nuke.
