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[Mini Comic] Contradictions

🕑 Added 2024-12-16 16:22:59 +0000 UTC

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GreenDreamer

I wish I had that longing, but I'm just too terrified. I end up even more awkward and unapproachable, and end up an odd wheel regardless of the number of people there. It's soul-rending.

Wu Wei Wolf

I, too, found this very relatable. Used this to try to explain my brain to friends and family.

Dhalo the Spirit

There is nothing wrong with you. You're simply introverted. Being introverted doesn't eliminate the human need for social interaction, it just makes it draining (whereas extroverts are energized by it), and sometimes you need to be alone and recharge your battery. Yeah, it sucks, extroverts have it easier and all the stuff; but fact is, you must juggle with your limited social energy to satisfy your social need. I'm really happy that you are surrounded by patient people who realize your worth.

Domus Vocis

I know the exact same feeling. As both an introvert and someone on the autism spectrum, and as someone who loves to spend a night off in my apartment, I still yearn for social interaction.

Kali

Sounds like you’re a social introvert. Your battery gets charged by alone time. Just be aware of your limits and take care of yourself ^.^

Zac

Welcome to the neurospicy world, duder. ❤️

YrevaWolf

Honestly I can very much relate lol. Everyone’s got their own social battery, and mine can vary depending on the day or my mood. There’s times where I like talking to people (even if I’m not good at it X3), but that energy does run out. And when it runs out, I desperately need my space 😆. As far as I’m concerned it’s a very normal thing to have, so don’t beat yourself up about it too much. ☺️❤️

QweenMab

I call it being a social introvert. Being social is important to us, but being with others is also draining. It’s like a laptop computer running down the battery - it needs to be plugged in to get recharged, and it recharges faster if it’s not being used. It’s taken me well into my 30’s to both understand and respect this part of myself, and to insist others respect it as well.

MasterDraco

That is an interesting self-reflection and kinda relatable. I know this feeling, it's like your mind needs a break after a lot of socialising. I don't think that anything is wrong with you, it might just be part of your personal character. Maybe something like ambiversion, a mix of introversion and extroversion. Maybe your introverted side just wants to tell you to take a break and care for yourself with some alone time to refill your energy for more. Ignoring that and favour your extroverted side can cause the mind to just take what it needs and it feels like a sudden mental crash. Just my two cents to this, I might be completely wrong, but you never know. I am just happy you have friends which understand you and know how to take you, that's something amazing to have. Some people will probably not get it and make a fuss about some unanswered messages or the cancellation of a date, but then they are just not worth dealing with, if they can't take you, how you are. And what I see, just from the personal things you share here, is a lovely guy with a heart of gold and some things he still needs to figure out about himself, what will certainly come with time.

antonio kontos

Man I feel that, great at online but not in person

Grey Archer

Hey it’s ok. We all have our own thresholds when it comes to interactions. That brain fog overtime just comes with being overstimulated. Nothing to be ashamed of!

Xavier Redstag

I really don't know what to say except, take all the quiet time you need, and *big hug*.

Arc

I call us introverts with extrovert tendencies. We are not recharged by doing social things, but we also can't get by without them. Best to just find friends that understand that you have to have alone time to recharge. Doesn't mean you love them any less. Hell, even my partner and I know that we have to have separate spaces to go to regularly.

Osiris Jackal

I tend to be the opposite, get depressed if im not hanging out with someone, dunno tho. Cute comic tho :p

Grey Lathrop

This is 100% normal.

Lady Wolfess

Wonderful comic. This might be an opportunity to visit a doctor and discuss your concerns (if you have not already). We appreciate your willingness to discuss the complexity of the grey jello in our skulls called “brain”.

Paul Abbott

Too relatable. And birdgoat is hilarious.

Strawberry Puptart

I get it, that's me too. It's been hitting me even harder now that I'm older. I know I have adhd, and a ton of anxiety, could be even more labels that can apply, but I just don't think abother diagnosis would serve me. Communication is the solution. People might not get it, but if they're good friends, you work it out. You don't have to run at everyone elses pace.

Beldro Mercier

So strong agree, I have the same situation. In my case I know, or at least understand that the need for isolation, isn't innate, it was learned through trauma. It's the constant control, management, expectation of social fault, the perceived judgement from it from other. I so don't want to make a social error because I don't want to loose the few I think I have left, so I am always cautious around others and that's draining, even if being with others is what I desire.

Punkthekidd

Beautifully worded 🧡 I feel this.

ctl032493

I know how you feel; you wanna get out there, but at the same time you feel like you wanna shut down. But I always remember that when it comes to interactions, keep it short and sweet. Plus, having good friends near you can help a lot. Bear in mind this is coming from someone autistic, social interactions are basically foreign to me.

Brannen

I have felt exactly the same way. I enjoy being out and about by myself or with friends and family. But sometimes I just feel I can only function when I'm completely isolated. And one of the only things that helps me deal with it is that I have friends and family that are there and understand even when I can't be.

FuzzyLopunny

I’m a complete introvert so having friends who understand is a great thing

Dasypygal

This is what being introverted is. Introverts don't necessarily dislike social interaction, they just find it takes energy to have them, then to recharge they need alone time. Many introverts love being around people but just get exhausted after awhile. Your experience is very normal.

Bossdog

There's nothing wrong with wanting some time alone. When you need it, don't question it, just give your body what it needs. Those that know and love you will understand.

Turbo Mair

That sounds like you are an Omnivert like me! Basically, swapping from high extravertion to high introvertion at times. I just tell people my social batteries need some charging and find a spot to gather myself :3 P.S. You should take the Myers-Briggs personality test (I recommend the one from Boo) and see if it helps ya learn some stuff about yourself. It's been a great help for myself with feelings like this.

Christopher Emerson

I feel this comic so much

Otterfate

Aww, it's wonderful ya have good friends that recognize and appreciate your needs! I'm pretty similar; my social battery only holds so much charge, and when it's gone, I can't contribute much anymore 😅

Ollie

That’s definitely the contradiction I feel with autism. My love for being out there and enjoying my friends contradicts with my absolute fatigue when engaging socially. The amount of work that goes into having to constantly be aware of tone, body language, nonverbal cues, it’s so overwhelming. When my friends go out to bars, I only last an hour max before I slip outside for the rest of the night, completely overstimulated and exhausted. It takes weeks of recovery and sometimes when they go out, I just know I don’t have it in me. Its frustrating and feels like someone put a limiter into my brain. But at the same time I’ve come to appreciate myself. It helps me set boundaries, keeps me very aware of my surroundings. That’s my experience, and why I think I feel that way. You could be feeling similar things for different reasons. The important thing is remembering to love yourself how you are. Nothing is “wrong” with you, and I hope you don’t feel that way :)

Ryan Thompson

Samesies! Discernment in the friends you surround yourself with is a good step in self-care I have found.

Dkrewe

I feel the same way. Social butterfly but my social battery runs out and then it's like my head is stuffed with cotton and it gets worse until I can have alone time. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 you are not alone!