Robert Vlaho
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[UPDATE] I am cured (jk, but I am better)
🕑 Added 2024-01-20 14:44:38 +0000 UTCFirst—thank you. One of my biggest fears about the update was that I’d get people telling me I’m lazy or whatever, and I’m happy to say that not even a single person decided to be mean.
This has gone a long way in validating how I feel. I’m far more confident that I’m going in the right direction.
It’s been a night; I’ve had good sleep, woke up, listened to music, had some coffee with my friends, ate and just… didn’t think about it. I let my mind rest and just let go of the pressure.
I have to say, it’s almost scary.
The difference in how I feel, that is.
The effect was immediate. It’s as if a mountain had slid off my back. Not even 24 hours had passed and I already feel much, much better. So much so that I feel a strong urge to write, and inspiration is already flowing more naturally. But none of that. I’ll continue my rest.
As for some of your advice—it's not the time for a vacation. I don’t feel that that is what I need at this moment. Maybe it's true that I could use one, but I think that right now is an opportunity to seize the momentum and set things on the right track first. Also, I have a lot of work that can’t just take a back seat, and postponing that would be purely detrimental to my mental health since the anxiety wouldn’t make for a relaxing vacation, and returning to a pile of work wouldn't allow for an easy way to balance everything.
I will focus on fixing my schedule, exercise, meditation, etc… And perhaps a doctor’s appointment because maybe it isn’t normal to be feeling so bad all the time lmfao 💀.
All in all, I’m in a far better place today than I was yesterday. Here is to making that my new normal or, at the very least, getting closer to it.
Cheers, everyone.
Have a wonderful day.
Comments
Timothy Dana
Any updates?
Observer Whimsy
Heal up dude! I like your stories, take your time to make the goodness in a way that doesn’t hurt. Hope you’re doing well.
Alberto Sanchez
Personally I prefer quality over quantity. Sure, patreon input can be a helpful tool, but in my personal opinion that should only affect the overall story structure as a whole. Yes, we're essentially beta-readers, but at least for me that doesn't mean that I don't care about the quality of what i'm getting. Seems to be different for other people though. Perhaps this is worth having a poll over, if this is something you are undecided about
Coffee makes anxiety worse. Decaf would be a good alternative. 😗 Glad to read that you felt better today!
Raganash
Mental health always is, and most likely, always will be a delicate balancing act.
Beeees!
Seems like your heads screwed on right. It's like they say on airplanes gotta help yourself before you help others. Take care of yourself Ina sustainable way and the work will come easier and content will flow. Thanks for the updates and I hope the trend over the last 24 hrs continues!
Andrei
As you said, this is a job, so treat it as such. Establish a REASONABLE release schedule, plan the "sprints", don't sweat the polishing for Patreon (we're paying for having chapters sooner, were willing to accept a rougher draft than RR/Kindle), include editing for older chapters within the schedule, add 1 month completely off (ideally in the summer if possible) and start building a backlog once everything is in place so you can cover for any unexpected issues) and then relax. We're here to enjoy the world you create, but we're not expecting you to work 24/7 to deliver the chapters, in the same way our bosses wouldn't expect that of us at work. But we do value consistency, so optimize for that for us readers and for work/life balance for yourself.
Robert Blaise
Thank you. I do, and the advice, both here and on Royal Road, has gone a long way to helping me set my goals straight and aligning my priorities.
Nomad
I'm glad you're feeling at least a bit better, and it seems like you have an idea on how to continue to improve balance in your life.
