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🕑 Added 2021-10-29 16:11:45 +0000 UTCA situation that I regularly seem to find myself in is when creepy people want me to tutorialise them into not being a creep. I blame myself for this a little bit because I think I have too much empathy honestly, and I've been known to give people the benefit of the doubt way beyond what is reasonable... One of my character traits that I'm proud of is that generally speaking I'm very approachable and non-judgmental, but I feel like it's very easy for bad actors to take advantage of me because of this......
But I'm really sick of being made to feel uncomfortable by someone and then having to have a post mortem on it with them. Usually these conversations are not in good faith and are a front for the other person to make me feel bad for being uncomfortable with them. I think it should be on the other person to remove themselves from the situation, educate themselves and not cause further discomfort.
I am still a little torn on this because a part of me wants to be like, 'but how will they learn if I don't explain it to them!'
But honestly, it shouldn't be on me, or on anyone else. It's their responsibility, not mine.
Anyway, I hope that makes sense. I'm working through some Feelings lately!!!
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That last pannel offt, hits the nail on the head omg Love it xx
Sandwich247
I get what you mean π Luckily I've been able to avoid being assaulted that way (which I attribute to me appearing intimidating and inapproachable), but I've been victim to a host of other abuses that generally stem from me being unable to recognise red flags and allowing myself to be emotionally manipulated into things I tend to ghost a lot more often these days because of it, and that's not really any good π
