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Ramble: What do you really want in a relationship? [11:36]
🕑 Added 2022-08-14 23:53:32 +0000 UTCI recorded this ramble after performing a spicy girlfriend audio last night. It made me ponder about relationships and marriage.
The graph below is the one I was trying to reference in my ramble about arranged marriages. Unfortunately, I do not have access to the very old paper, so I don't have proper context to fully discuss the study and its participants.
I just think it's interesting when people talk about a relationship's honey moon phase. Do you want something that burns bright with a short life? Or a slow burn like ember?
Caveat, when talking about arranged marriages... I am not referencing forced marriages or ones with child brides. Those are nopes. Big nopes.
Gupta, U., & Singh, P. (1982). An exploratory study of love and liking and type of marriage. Indian Journal of Applied Psychology.
🔸 Oh for funsies, my beta listener recommends this song for you all to listen to, especially if you're searching for your perfect someone.
🎧 Listen to song >> Bo Burnham - Lower Your Expectations
"If you want love, lower your expectations a few because Prince Charming would never settle for you" Heh.
So tell me, what are 3 traits you want in a partner? And what do you have to offer?
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Comments
sade
Hey Skitty. :) Wow, this comment section is insanely long. I fear if I leave one more comment Patreon will crash and burn. I once saw some small documentary about parents arranging marriages for their children in China. They met up with other parents and they tried to match their children with a good partner. They carried these posters that they showed each other. There was the face of their child, and points about their qualities and personality listed out. There wasn't any romanticism. The parents were so practical and calculating about matching people, that it felt wrong to me back then. They were like trading cards. "What can I get for this one? Hmm... that one's worse than mine, no thank you!" I wouldn't want that for myself. But... maybe if some dear friend knew some sweet person, and thought I should get introduced, I could give it a try... ':) What a sweet ramble. You were great at talking gently about this big subject. <3 And take care Skitty. I feel really bad about you having health problems :((
Nathan
I will add that I'm a very snug person overall. I love to read, sometimes aloud (voice cut for radio, they say). Also cook and bake when I can stand to, so my place often smells of homemade banana bread, apple pie, homemade tacos, etc. Lots of little good recipes you pick up from sharing with friends (which is always a good thing to have). Go to places where life makes sense and the rest, surreal as it can be at times, sometimes falls into place. Either way, let's hope hugs are in the future :)
