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Surviving in the world of overachievers 🙇♀️
🕑 Added 2024-12-11 11:28:02 +0000 UTCThe healthiest thing you can do to yourself in this world of overachievers is stop worrying so much about all the metrics of “success”. And instead focus on being able to do what you love for as long as you can 🌠
Sometimes it feels like simply living a life and enjoying what you do has slowly turned into one of the biggest luxuries in the world.
Making to-do lists, filling them with as many tasks as possible, trying to cross those out the next day and failing to finish them all. Wondering why you can't get this ton done without being overwhelmed or feeling like a failure at the end of the day. Spiraling as a result, thinking that everyone around you seems to have it all together, not realizing it's just an illusion. Blaming your own "lazy" self and trying again the next day, only to fail again and again. Burning out and not being able to perform any tasks whatsoever in the end...
As you can see, I'm no stranger to such practices, and being a prisoner to my own brain of overachiever seems all too familiar, to the point where it feels natural. But it's not natural, nor healthy. So, I also need this reminder at times that hustle culture isn't a culture at all, it's a cult. And in a cult, nobody truly cares about you as an individual or your well-being. Time to break free 🕊️🤍
Comments
Asato Munowa
Thank you so, SO MUCH for this, Solar. I remembered some important things and goals in my life again that i lost focus on. Now i can make a step back and try to find myself again, what i really want and always wanted. THANK YOU <3
Altinus
Yes, yes, and yes. I experience these thoughts every day, which I have come to name Agitator, "charioteer," in that it drives me in every which way for no reason other than it needs to be done. I have been thinking about this very topic over the past week, and I've been fighting in my head to practice constant self-care. You have spoken well.
Scott B.
I fell into the academic version of this trap in high school and college. I spent so much time concerned with extracurriculars and test scores and obsessively tailoring my résumé until I felt it accurately mirrored the image of the "competitive" student I thought myself to be. The burnout eventually caught up to me in college when I had to take a semester off for mental health reasons. I've gotten to experience first-hand that the need to keep up appearances doesn't end after school; the metrics merely shifted from SAT scores and internship offers to 90-hour work weeks and bank account statements. So a lot of adulthood for me has been about finding more of that balance between working a job that offers growth and security, while not losing sight of what actually matters in life. Rambling a bit here, but thanks for these words, Solar 💖
Anton Mattsson
This is really solid advice. It’s hard for me to remember this, I always compare myself with others and it often makes me feel less important and capable.😞 thank you Solar🥺🫂❤️🩹
Parker Hood
Thank you Solar needed this more than you know! 🫂❤️ You better rest as well!!! Team self care ☺️
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You've got this 🫂
Samson Liang
Wow. This actually hits deeper than I thought. Everything you wrote in the post pretty much described my work ethic and how I feel about not getting work done. Often times when I don't get any study done, I get critical of myself. This is especially true when I fail at anything, I put myself down for it a lot. Definitely something I need to work on and as you said, break free from it
Common Sense, Bane of Humanity
Needed this, thank you
