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✨ 🍵 Spilling Tea 🍵 ✨ [Why It's Good to Romanticise Your Life] [Monthly Newsletter] [April 2021]
🕑 Added 2021-03-31 19:02:33 +0000 UTCToday's topic: Why It's Good to Romanticise Your Life [In My Opinion]
So, in my humble opinion, we need to fall in love with our lives. Or at least, we need to try to.
So much of our daily lives is, well, uninspiring. From the news, to the people we work with, to the circumstances we live in, life can leave us feeling a little less than pumped. And to a great extent, that’s unavoidable. A huge portion of adult life is doing things we don’t want to in order to achieve something we do. So, we go to a shitty job, we tolerate people that vex us, we put on a smile and we tell ourselves “only so many hours till home”. And then we get home, and if we’re lucky, our home is our safe, little microcosm that’s just for us.
Home is base. Home is the reward. Home is who we really are.
And in my opinion, there’s something really beautiful about that. So, we can’t avoid complication or drudgery or doing things we don’t want to. So, what can we do? Well, as simple as it sounds, we can make the most of the good stuff. We can maximise the stuff that makes the work worth it! We can fall in love with our lives, or at least try some well-intentioned flirting. Small steps and all that.
Now, have you ever seen a Studio Ghibli film? If not, I highly recommend them, but if you have, you might already know where I’m going with this. So, Studio Ghibli films, whilst sometimes fantastical, often celebrate and romanticise the everydayness of life. From the golden gleam of tea pouring into a cup, to the quaintness of walking in the sunshine, Ghibli films have an amazing way of getting you excited about being alive. They inspire liveliness and romance in everyday things and actively make you want to do said things: to make a cup of tea (and use the fancy cups), to set out a picnic blanket in the back garden, to take time out to read a book, ride a bike, heck, even brush your teeth for the recommended two minutes.
My point is entertainment (in whatever form) can be influential, and if it can be influential, I see no reason it can’t be positive.
So, is the takeaway just to watch Studio Ghibli films? Well, again, I’d highly recommend them, but I think I’m suggesting a little more than that. I’m suggesting that we fill our lives with as much “Ghibli energy” as possible. Now, that could come from watching Ghibli films, or it could come from a particular musician, song, YouTube channel, podcast, perfume, or pasta dish. The point is, I believe we should find things that make us excited about right here, right now.
What I really love about “falling in love with your life” is that it’s such a practical form of romance. Outside of going on dating apps, putting ourselves out there, and inevitably embarrassing ourselves in front of attractive strangers, we have very little control over our romantic success. And that’s probably because it’s very dependent on other people. We can’t control if someone finds us interesting, attractive, or worthwhile, and honestly, we have no right to. But what we have every right to, is creating our own little piece of romance.
Our own little love story, made entirely by us truly!
Self-love, in my humble-pie opinion, is extremely underrated, and it’s far more integral to our happiness than we allow ourselves to believe.
And how can we really explore that, when every story we’ve ever been told ends with “and then they got married and had lots of sex and babies?” Like, okay, but did she go to law school, did he resolve the conflict with his dad, did either of them ever really explore themselves fully before giving their all to this Happily Ever After? Details, people, details!
Yes, it might be easier to say “but things will be better when I meet the one”. And I am not trying to take away the importance that other people have in our lives. Relationships are wonderful, and they absolutely add to our overall happiness, but I also think we underestimate the influence we have over our own personal satisfaction.
And so, I have found, very sincerely, that slowly falling in love with my life, has been very, very positive.
I adore my family, I am very in love with my husband, but I have to know that I cannot control their constancy in my life. I don’t know what’s going to happen. I don’t know if feelings will change, if we’ll become separated by time, space, or even death, but what I do know is that my ultimate happiness is my responsibility. And one of the many ways I’ve been able to fulfil that responsibility is by romanticising the everydayness of being me.
So, I enjoy my morning cup of tea, I listen to the birdsong as I take my dog for a walk, I make my home comfortable and safe, and most of all, I just try to do my best to make my life everything I’d want it to be.
We are all the heroes of our own stories. And my story is about a girl who fell in love with making the best of it.
As always, I really appreciate that life isn't one size fits all. These are just my thoughts, I hope they can be of some use to you.
Best wishes,
Tea
Comments
Joshderfer654
Nice post. I can tell it is from the heart. I am sorry if I said anything that could have been flirty, I did not know you were married. I will do my best to be professional with my comments.
Benny D.
God bless
Sheridan Dancer
As always Tea you have a wonderful way with words. Fortunate or unfortunately depending on how you look at it. You can't appreciate the good without the bad.
Hermes
Interesting take, I think that Marcel Proust wrote something similar, something like "Its not about looking for new landscapes but to see with new eyes", or at least that is the main idea...as for studio Ghibli movies I strongly recommend The tale of princess Kaguya, it is a beautiful film!
AudioFreak
Your best one yet, Tea! I have been struggling with that lately. I hope I find it in me soon. :-) Thank you!
Jacob Griffith
It's times like this I wish I led a more interesting life, one I could romanticize. As it stands I feel like an NPC character in a game.
Jared Chinchello
Tea, this hit me with a metaphorical folding chair. You just keep spitting facts. I appreciate that you are sharing your opinions with us, they are opinions that need to be seen.
The Jolly Dane
This! You're so absolutely right, life becomes so much more joyous, when you find the mindfulness to appreciate all the little things in your existence, that make you calm and happy. I like the philosopher Albert Camus' take on the myth of Sisyphus. This was some dude in Greek mythology, who pissed off the gods, which was no hard task, and his punishment was to push this boulder up the top of a hill. But whenever he got the boulder to the top, it would always tumble back down, and he would have to start aaaall over again, and repeat this process for the rest of eternity. The monotony and hard labour was his punishment, but if you add one little detail, it changes the entire story: He's always smiling. This man accepts his place, where he has to stay for the rest of his life, and he makes himself fall in love with it. Now the labour is something he savours, and that little, load-free chase to the bottom is his happy place. He adds a spoonful of sugar, you might say.
Haruto
**was already romanticizing his cooking skills beforehand** I feel better about this now.
This one hits me where I live metaphorically speaking .
TeacupAudio
What an honest and brave comment. I completely relate to those feelings, Coby. I think part of loving yourself is accepting that the relationship you have with yourself is probably the most complex one you'll have. Sometimes, it's not easy to love yourself, sometimes it's damn near impossible, but that doesn't mean you aren't worthy of love. It just means that love is difficult. And it is. Whether that's familial, romantic, platonic, or self love. Love is not always easy, but it is very much worthwhile. Thank you again for your lovely comment. I hope you have a wonderful day :)
Iron Piedmont
You're right. You're absolutely right. Sometimes the things we do at home are something we should romanticize.
I really appreciate the honesty in this. It’s refreshing to see something so genuine. Thank you Tea
Coby-O
This one was hard for me to read. I have major trouble loving me and my life. I constantly think that I could have done better or done something different than what actually happened. When I think about mistakes I’ve made, criticize myself harshly. I don’t see myself as a worthy person for anything or have done anything significant or important. I understand what you said Tea and don’t disagree at all. It’s just hard for me to look at myself say “I love you and you’re doing your best in life.”
Karl
This is fking beautiful !
Christian Agustin
This made my day :D
AydenKlitsch
Needed this
June
Thank you
