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🕑 Added 2021-12-05 16:47:22 +0000 UTC"Sexuality is often presented in media as very cartoonish and over-the-top. Sexuality is different for everyone. Just because you see a naked man or woman doesn't mean you'll instantly become possessed by lust. Your relationship with sex is what's right for you."
Media heightens most everything for the purpose of entertainment: shoot outs don't look that cinematic in real life, fights don't go that smoothly, and lust doesn't instantly overcome us at the Meer sight of our preferred genitalia.
My point is please don't think there's anything wrong with you if you don't see your relationship to sex represented in media.
I've often had people look at me strangely when I've commented that dick pics or even just sexual images do absolutely nothing for me. In fact, genitals removed from all mood, atmosphere, and feeling, are rather unappealing to me.
For me, when it comes to real sex, not pornography, there has to be a real connection, a real desire to show affection and love for another person. The idea of one night stands doesn't excite me, and truthfully (and rather ironically) porn with actual people in it that I can see, really just makes me embarrassed - I feel like I'm spying on a very private moment and voyuerism is not my thing.
Ultimately, what I'm saying in a very scrambled way is that there is no one way to feel lust, have sex or respond to your sexuality. People have tried to put me into boxes, saying things like "well, if you don't love penises or vaginas, maybe you're asexual". But I absolutely feel sexual desire and lust, just not in the way that it's often portrayed in porn or other media. I have sex on my own terms and I know what turns me on and off.
So, please don't feel that your way is wrong because it's not. Only you know what works for you.
Best wishes,
Tea
Comments
Mattygee
One of the reasons i listen to audios and read hentai, if you search femdom in porn or erotica most of it is leather bondage straps, pegging ball busting all the super extreme stuff. Idk man i just wanna be pinned down and told I'm a good boy •3•
Trygveblacktiger
What i dont really like is when media depict being sexual as evil or bad. Yes there are creeps out there but i know plenty of sexual people. Who are good people who you dont even know they are very lewd people until you befriend them. Not to mention my self :v
Preach dear
Richard Hardslab
The mainstream depiction of sex is pretty toxic, in my opinion. It always seems so Highschoolish to me and I find people eventually stop acting like that.
Wilhelm Trooper Studios
Absolutely agree with every sentence :)
TheTMoneyMan
Exactly. If the term was used to describe a person whose sole goal in sex was to please themselves without regard to their partner's pleasure, then yes I would agree that they are a "selfish lover". Unfortunately I have seen certain groups online turn it into a term of shame for those who don't do certain sex acts regardless of their ability/want to consent or not. That is when I am uncomfortable with the term being used.
Brooms17
Well said. :)
TeacupAudio
A lot of empathy and kindness and rightly so. However, and this is just how I've looked at it, I think the term "selfish lover" is often used to describe someone who simply doesn't take any care or consideration for their partner in bed. For example, someone who merely takes what they want, instead of meeting fairly in the middle. However, that's just how I've always seen that phrase play out. Either way, I really agree that no one should ever be forced to do anything they're not comfortable with. The best sex is healthy and happy sex, whatever that might entail :)
TheTMoneyMan
It's for reasons like these that I don't like terms like "selfish lover". Terms like that ignore the fact that there are people who are just not comfortable with doing somethings in the bedroom, and that is okay that they don't regardless of what sexual thing you are taking about.
Max M Maxington
I accidentally posted that before I finished it. But the idea is that actual sex doesn't do anything for me, but I still have sexual desires. And I always feel like I'm being confusing when I say that. But it's like I can never explain it without going into too much detail. My train of thought ends here.
Ravenforce3
Preach, Tea.🤘
Max M Maxington
This makes me think of my sexuality. I used to think of asexual, so I could have a word to sum it up.
Wraith
When she's right, she's right people... and a whole hell of a lot of the times I find myself agreeing with what Tea is saying, and that I may just be having trouble putting into words. Thank you Tea! ❤
John Folmer
Huh. I suddenly feel a little less alone and weird. Thanks Tea
Blindluck92
Thank you, Tea.
June
Thank you 💕
