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The Importance of Setting Boundaries
🕑 Added 2023-01-08 12:51:24 +0000 UTC“People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you”.
This doesn’t mean you’re at fault if someone treats you poorly, more like, you are responsible for either upholding or confronting said treatment. Do you accept or reject it?
I for one struggle with this. As I’m sure many of you guys do too, as a lot of us are natural people pleasers. We want to give people a chance, we want to see the good, heck, sometimes we’d even like to be wrong about people.
And whilst there’s nothing wrong with wanting to see the good in people, the issue lies in not taking on other people’s negative treatment as your problem.
There’s obviously a lot of grey here, factors, circumstances, health, context, but case by case, day by day, we have to decide what we’re going to accept and what we’re going to reject.
Moral of the very vague story - don’t internalise people’s shit. How someone treats you usual says far more about them than it does about you - for better or worse.
Stay safe, be kind.
Comments
Funflame
So true. Being a people pleaser like I am, this hits home. Well said Tea
TheFireIron 357
As someone close to me once said: "Other people are not responsible for maintaining our boundaries. We are."
Phoenix Brave Hideki
Once again Tea speak truth. As much we like to help and believe their good we should not blame ourselves for all their problems. Thanks again Tea for your helpful advice.
The Keys
Facts
Blindluck92
Truth. Thanks Tea.
Lost Puppy
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NearisL
I've suffered from low self esteem for a long time and I definitely have let people treat me worse than I should. As always, thank you Tea for your sweet and wise words.
Nox Nemesis
As always- very well said Tea. Thank you for your Pinches of Positivity. They help get things into perspective.
Arvel
Yup, so true. While it's okay to joke around with friends and maybe call each other retards here and there, you wouldn't want some random stranger on the street just push you away because you were in their way, would you? Or even a coworker who you're not really friends with. And while some may be able to handle that kind of situation better, others do not. And before it turns into a complete mess, it's best to step up for yourself and set things right. Even if it takes a lot of confidence, it is 110% worth it in the end.
Rasmus
I really needed this right now… Thank you so much🥹❤️
