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I Wanna See Men Smiling ☺️

🕑 Added 2023-01-29 18:46:16 +0000 UTC

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ColonelSanders1163

To be honest, it's just hard to lol

Larry Joseph

Honestly I just don't like photos, growing up, my mother always wanted photos saying "you're going to be glad you have these when I'm gone" and yeah I will be, but shes also still pretty young and i believe theres still at least 30 more years with her (god forbid anything terrible happens) and so for now I'm just not a fan of having my picture taken, and I'd much rather not look directly at the camera and give a half assed side smile so then I'm not directly acknowledging I'm having my picture taken and give a proper smile

Ninja T-rex

Some don't smile because they're afraid that it makes them look soft and vulnerable, some don't smile because they think it'll make them look attractive. Me personally, I don't like smiling unless I'm actually happy, but since I started dating, I've had a lot of reasons to do so.

John Doe

Last time I felt comfortable smiling with someone in a photo, they abandoned me shortly after. What’s the point in smiling for the camera if I’m just gonna have to throw away the photo soon. It just feels awkward

Icky Paint Like Soup

Eh, I'm not much of a smiles guy myself. It's got nothing to do with my attitude(I like to think of myself as a pretty positive guy), but when I see myself smiling in the mirror or in pictures, I go "yeah, no".

Cooper Little

I never smile if I can help it. Showing one's teeth is a submission signal in primates. When someone smiles at me, all I see is a chimpanzee begging for its life.

DeemerWM

Good luck. It’s very hostile world out there for guys.

Sam

Pinch of salt there I think.

orc_daddy

I don't smile because i lost most of my teeth. its why i hate the expectation in america that we should be smiling at everyone

A Surprisingly Realistic Wax Replica of Nick Cage

For me, it was always because my teeth had been very crooked. It wasn't for any stoicism, but just that I was embarrassed. I've since gotten braces and now find myself constantly smiling in photos to show it off. I've gotten so many compliments on it, and it's really helped improve my self image.

TheNoisy

I just find myself feeling awkward and unable to express a good smile 🤧

TheFireIron 357

There's a balnce I've found between being tough and vulnerable. You can't be complete with just one or the other. We need both. And I think that applies to anyone, regardless of what your bits look like.

Lachlan Parker

Stoic masculinity is an extremely toxic form of masculinity, where, According to female psychologist Belle Hooks, young boys are severed from their mothers too soon. The inability to feel, understand, and express healthy emotions is the definition of traditional (stoic) masculinity. I'm paraphrasing, since I don't remember the exact wording of the quote, but the message is pretty clear.

Lachlan Parker

Or how their father would shame them for it without a shred of sympathy or compassion (I don't say this from experience, and I've always been expressive).

Jonathan Stark

Behind every guy who isn’t open with his emotions, is a story (or several) about a time a woman in his life used his emotions against him in some way. Or a story about how being emotionally sensitive made a woman lose attraction for him.

Ka'laar

My coworkers have told me I never smile in company pictures, even the casual selfies they might take during a lunch break. I never noticed, but I guess I never think to smile, it just happens if I feel it. I hope I don't come across as gruff or imposing or something, they say it's endearing since they know me. I know I used to smile as a nervous reaction up to when I was around 12, but that seems to have stopped.

Sean Keller

growing up and my smile was always crictized they called it the pope smile, so if I'm coming off as dark and menacing it's probably because I don't feel comfortable smiling

Nox Nemesis

It's hard to smile for deliberate photos, because they are photos for the sake of being photos- if that makes any sense. That is probably why you may not see genuine guy smiles in photos. For me? I just... don't have much to smile about, unless I'm at home with my pups.

Chad Schmaltz

I find it hard to make a convincing smile if I'm not genuinely happy at the time. If I smile for a picture, it comes across as looking forced.

Liam Locke

For pictures it's always forced for me always been a thing can't really smile naturally wen there's a camera on me for what ever reason. I've adopted the act like your laughing strategy and while better it's still not natural by any means 😅. Doesn't help that for the longest time in my life I hated the way I looked. Got through that phase tho so still working on other things but feeling a lot better about myself past few years. Progress is progress 👍

Phoenix Brave Hideki

I often feel weird when I dont smile for a photo. So I never understood the whole dont smile on photo thing. Thanks again Tea for wonderful thought.

UnknownToYou

I try to smile slightly for pictures although not with confidence as I got told in the past that it looked stupid when I smiled, like a squirrel with puffed up cheeks.

Arvel

I generally don't like how I look on photos like 99% of the time. And even when I get told to smile, it still looks ... wrong. at least to me, even though I get told otherwise. But it's just hard to see in a different way. At least that's my experience

Sir Michaelangelo III

The reason I don’t smile is because I look like I’m gonna shit myself

Stuart Galloway

Often we're told that we look odd/creepy/fake when we smile, or someone points out a flaw that smiling makes 'obvious'. This is especially the case in posed photos. I can still remember 11 years later someone pointing out that when I smile they notice that my left eye is less open than my right eye - based on a photo.

yamitenshi

Can't speak for anyone else but for me it's just that either I smile involuntarily or I forget how to face and end up looking like a maniac

TeacupAudio

Exactly. Candid photos all the way. Forced smiles are not something anybody should want. We all need to be assigned personal photographers at birth, to capture all those genuine smiles 😄

That one guy

I just dont believe in forcing a smile for a photo. Feels disingenuous to me. If im smiling its because im actually happy not because someone said to for a photo. Fake smiles the eyes dont light up as much if that makes any sense.

Just some guy with a handlebar mustache

From what I've seen a decent chunk of men avoid smiling in public either because without the right look a smile can look creepy and that a smile just isn't how they show happiness. (For example some people show it by being more attentive if they're usually air headed, some get really energetic, others may simply acknowledge it with words and go about their day or some other little quirk)

Miles Skywalker

I would love to, but I don't really have anything to smile about.

Ravenforce3

I do not enjoy being photographed and do not naturally smile (my neutral expression has some serious Resting Bitch Face.) At best you're going to get a smirk unless you make me laugh first. I'm weird like that.