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🕑 Added 2023-09-16 18:21:38 +0000 UTCThis won’t be for everyone, but I honestly just want to date someone. I don’t wanna live with them, I don’t wanna have babies with them, I literally just want to spend time together and occasionally hold hands. I love my own space and time and if I ever date again, that’s how I’m doing it.
To clarify, I am in no way saying everyone should do this. I don’t know what’ll work for you. I just know what works for me. Do what feels good and right for you and just enjoy as much as you can.
I think we’ve created this idea that all couples should live together, but why?! Couples vary in many different ways, and if some flourish not living together, then why should they have to?!
I’ve often told people about this wish and I’ve been labeled cold or immature, but I’m no longer gonna apologise for my feelings and wants. I don't want to be someone's mom or caretaker. I don't wanna pick up their laundry or fight about decor. In short, I don't really wanna compromise all that much. It's that simple.
I'm me. I'm complete as I've always been. And if I fall in love with someone I will still be me. And I honestly think real love allows for people to be authentic and honest. And honestly, I don't want to emulate most of the dynamics that I've seen growing up. Often times, people end up unnecessarily stifled, aggravated and feeling lonely, especially women. Most women are naturally more agreeable than men, they're self-sacrificing and often downplay their own wants and needs in order to be a good 'wife' or 'girlfriend'. And it's taken me a long time to unlearn these behaviours. I don't wanna care more about how someone else see's me, even a someone I love, than how I see me.
I appreciate that's probably not gonna make me the most popular gal at the bar, but being truthful, I never was anyway.
More than ever, I think it's time to just live and be as happy as we can be.
So, just my thoughts. If you relate, just know you're not weird or immature. Feel how you feel.
P.S.
TO ABSOLUTELY CLARIFY...
I am in no way seeking personal attention here. Teacup is not me and I was just talking about alternative dating set-ups. This is not an advert!
In true and brutal honesty, you guys don't want what I'm offering. And that is in no way self-deprecation. This isn't 'oh, no, not little old me'. Nope. I'm just not like the women in the audios and that's all anyone has to go off. I am not Teacup. I'm not sensual or seductive or easily embarrassed like a tomboy. There is no false advertising or entrapment here. Just a crazy lady talking about alternative ways of living. Thank you for your time :D
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Rix
As I was reeling from my ex's announcement for a divorce, almost a year ago exactly, one of the things I learned through my emotional growth was that there needs to be boundaries, and they need to be set either before you start searching again or early into the interaction with that new potential partner. I gave way too much of myself in that relationship, when all I'd asked for was a partner to walk beside and share the experience with. instead I gave until there wasn't much of me left. A healthy relationship exists when you can equally be yourself and connect/share with that other person. I think the concept of a fucking... dbz fusion being the end goal of a relationship/marriage- where everything is done together and enjoyed together -is incredibly toxic and needs to be dismissed. Make your space. make your boundaries. make something for your own. if someone wants to share and add to that space, awesome. but don't let anyone take from that space/safety/happiness ever again.
Nutritious
Can absolutely relate. It's bad enough that we have to pretend and compromise for work, school, familiy and whatnot, so let us at least keep our sanctuary of home where we can be ourselves. Hope you get to find somone who understands and accepts that part of you :c)
kratossmash
kinda sounds like you just looking for a cuddle buddy instead of a date.
Iron Piedmont
This sounds pretty reasonable to me. Not sure why people would call you "immature" for this.
ColonelSanders1163
So... what's up, Tea? Lmao
TeacupAudio
Yes, it's very interesting what gets passed down through the sexes. I've also heard that men feel they need to sacrifice everything for their partner/wife. Which is really just... sad. Men are people just like women. Your life should be about you, not about sacrificing all of you for another person. It's been my experience that the women in my life have born all the emotional, physical and child-rearing labour, all while having jobs themselves... and to me, nothing sounds worse than being a single married mom. I think the point is, that regardless of what we've been told by our parents and peers, we really just have to figure out what works for us. And being a martyr for the sake of a marriage doesn't work for me at all.
Exl Kaldra
I am honestly surprised buy your take on female lonelyness in relationships do to sacrifices in relationships mainly do to me (23m) being deliberately told most of my life that men are to sacrifice everything for their spouse.i definitely think it wrong to teach both sexes that they have to sacrifice themselves to be in a relationship because theb no one is being themselves in said relationship.
Lost Puppy
also 💜💜💜💜💕💞💘💝💯💯✅✅💜💜💜💜
Lost Puppy
this one completely agrees a great relationship to this one is holding hands, having cuddle sessions watching tv or movies, and just generally being in the same room and being super comfortable even if we aren't doing the same thing lol :D
