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✨With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility✨
🕑 Added 2025-06-24 17:27:09 +0000 UTCThe only reason I'm able to support anyone is because you listen to me. Thank you for that.
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As someone who is financially responsible for several people, it is my duty to never hold that over their heads. I grew up with someone who constantly told me that I was a financial burden and that I was bleeding him dry.
I will never do that to my people, nor should anyone else. It was my decision to support them. No one forced me, I chose it. That makes it my job and my duty to fulfil that role.
You can't ask someone to depend on you and then criticise them for it. Financial abuse is so real and present in so many relationships.
✨Being a provider puts you in a position of power. And if you are a provider, it is imperative that you do not abuse your power.✨
I see a lot of people who want all the praise and status of being the provider, but have none of the integrity and humility that must come with it. Just because you pay for someone does not make you their boss, or give you the right to call all the shots.
A lot of people claim they want to be providers, when in reality they just want total control. Making someone dependent on you just so you can feel important is never going to work.
You have to want to provide because you want to take care of them. You want them to be safe and provided for - not because you're looking to be the ringleader.
I've grown up around people who resented their dependents deeply. And to me, there truly isn't anything more loathsome. I'm not the parent of any of my dependents. I'm not married to them, or have any kind of transactional relationship. But I'm still financially tied to them because that's my choice.
They don't owe me anything. I'm not the boss. I chose to support them because I love them and I don't want them to worry. That's being a provider.
Comments
Adam Rigby
I have no idea what struggles you're going through, but thank you so much for the good work you do. <3
Verid
There's also problem from "opposite direction". People feel guilty when receiving support. Even if they set up the ko-fi or patreon themselves, the moment they receive some token of appreciation, they start feeling bad and apologize profusely for even having "dono" channel. As if they not only feel not worthy enough to receive any monetary praise but also question validity (and sanity) of donator's decision to support them. And i don't think it's because that i (or someone else) could hold fact of donating against them in any way. People are not used to kindness because of being deprived of it for so long.
