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A Few Thoughts on Dirty Talk - Becca's Blog
🕑 Added 2021-12-10 07:45:23 +0000 UTCOn this week’s episode of Succession (Season 3, Episode 8), there was an erotic (theoretically erotic, at least) exchange between Tom and Shiv (a married couple). They’ve just gotten back to their room after attending the rather tame bachelor and bachelorette parties of Shiv’s mother and her soon-to-be new husband.
Shiv’s in a bit of a nasty mood – spending time with either of her parents tends to dampen her mood – and when the subject of dirty talk comes up, Tom suggests that she take charge. If you watched the episode you’ll know the exchange I’m talking about. If not, I’ve transcribed it below:
Tom: You say anything to me, go on, mistress Siobhan Roy.
Siobhan: You’re not good enough for me.
Tom: Oh, right, oh. I see. Well let’s see about that.
Siobhan: Mmm hmm. Yeah. I’m way outta your fucking league.
Tom: Oh you think so?
Siobhan: Uh huh [Pause] But that’s why you want me. That’s why you love me.
Tom: Fuck you.
Siobhan: Even though I don’t love you.
Tom: Uh huh.
Siobhan: But you want me anyway.
Now, if you watched the show, you know this wasn’t presented in a particularly sexy manner, though it does seem as if it inspired arousal in Tom. Earlier in the episode, Shiv’s mother remarks that her father enjoys kicking the things that he loves – like Shiv, for instance – just to see if they’ll come back to him. Shiv, it seems, has inherited that quality of her father’s and in this exchange she’s taking the opportunity to kick Tom, and kick him quite hard. He comes back, though, and right away.
Though the scene was a depiction of a fairly toxic, unhealthy marriage, as I watched it I couldn’t help but think of some of the fun I’ve had with my husband over the years, as there’s a healthy, sexy way to enjoy the kind of dirty talk that feels like it crosses a boundary most couples wouldn’t be willing to approach. I suspect many couples that have expanded their sex lives to include kink felt the same way if they saw the scene.
Go back to that exchange. If it’s delivered in a more erotic manner than it was in the show, it could absolutely be a source of arousal if both members of the couple were into that particular form of play. The “even though I don’t love you” line is a tough one to sell, but again, in a relationship where they’ve both agreed upon a particular form of play – and where they engage in aftercare once it’s over – it can work if it turns them both on.
To me, it’s simpler in cuckolding. For instance, I’ve delivered this line on more than one occasion, usually while I’m on top and my husband is inside me:
Me: I wish I was riding my boyfriend’s cock instead of yours.
If I time it right, that can be enough to make him cum. The level of arousal that cuckolding generates in my husband never ceases to amaze me, and that’s part of why it’s so much fun. Just a handful of words when delivered at the right time can put him over the top. It’s not just that, though. Those words can ensure that his orgasm is better than it otherwise would have been because it sends his level of arousal through the roof. Here’s another, super simple example:
Me: He fucks me better than you do.
That one works well in missionary. It turns him on, but it also tends to inspire him to try and fuck me harder, which is great when I’m in the mood for it. It’s such a simple thing to say, and yet it packs a remarkably powerful punch in terms of erotic pleasure. We don’t engage in that sort of dirty talk every time we have sex – do anything often enough and it gets boring – but I love being able to pull out something like that if I really want to thrill him.
I tend not to get cruel (it can be a turn off for me), but if the mood is right something like, “You’re not good enough for me,” or “I deserve to fuck someone better than you,” can provide that same level of pleasure. It’s a little more destructive to say something like that, though, so it’s the sort of language that’s best used sparingly, even if aftercare is part of your practice.
Obviously, I’m big on dirty talk (I’m sure you’ve noticed that my stories are heavy on it). My fondness for it largely comes from experience, I suppose. I love the look on my husband’s face when I say something that really turns him on and I can’t help but want to say the thing that turns him on that much. I love how I feel when my husband or a boyfriend says something that really turns me on. I know dirty talk isn’t for everyone, but it’s absolutely for me.
It is important to mix things up with dirty talk, though. You can’t say the same thing each and every time as boredom is bound to follow. There’s also something quite potent about saying – or doing – something that’s a complete surprise. For instance, I could get my husband all worked up and make him think I’m going to let him fuck me. I could have his cock impossibly stiff with desire and dripping all sorts of precum (he produces a lot of precum). I could let him feel just a hint of my wetness and then turn the tables in an instant. I could wrap my fingers around his cock, deny him entrance to my pussy, and tell him he’s not good enough, that he doesn’t deserve to fuck me in that moment, that my hand is all he deserves because he can’t fuck me anywhere near as well as my boyfriend does (this works best if I’m actively involved with someone else). He’d love that, and the element of surprise would be a big part of what would make it so thrilling. Novelty is, after all, the best way to keep your sex life interesting.
Perhaps I’ll make use of that particular form of pleasure when I’ve found a boyfriend. I could schedule a visit with him without telling my husband and then leave right after I’ve made my husband cum. Honestly, the idea is more than a little arousing, so I’ll have to give it a try.
Until next time :)
