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The Gift: Conclusion - On Being Good Ancestors

🕑 Added 2025-10-02 18:47:17 +0000 UTC
The Gift: Conclusion - On Being Good Ancestors

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azalea water

Kinda late on this one because I didn't have a lot to say on the last few chapters. I think my only take away of note is my love for Hyde's practical advice. He's spent a long time setting up a very complicated, vibey, and beautiful philosophy of gifts and comes to the wall which faces everyone in the social sciences: is this *actually* useful? The shocking answer to almost every one of these queries is simple: yes. Somethings are useful for the sake of culture and people do (surprisingly) have reasons for writing monographs. No one in the social sciences sets out with the soul purpose of dicking about with theorists with no end in sight. These are sciences, after all. And science has goals. However, it is absolutely possible to get lost in the source. I personally love Judith Butler's idea of gender performativity. While I'm not 100% down with everything that theory implies, it's a great way to start thinking about how gender informs out day-to-day lives. But when in "Gender Trouble" they begin going on tangents about Freudian theories of sexuality for its own sake, it can feel like you're wading through sand. So I really appreciate Hyde tying all of this up with how his theory can impact everyday social interactions. “I still believe that the primary commerce of art is a gift exchange, that unless the work is the realization of the artist’s gift and unless we, the audience, can feel the gift it carries, there is no art; I still believe that a gift can be destroyed by the marketplace. But I no longer feel the poles of this dichotomy to be so strongly opposed. In working out the details of the chapter on usury, in particular, I came to understand that gift exchange and the market need not be wholly separate spheres. There are ways in which they may be reconciled, and if, like the Jews of the Old Testament, we are a community that deals with strangers, or if, like Ezra Pound, we are artists living in a market society, it is the reconciliation we must seek.” — p343 Absolute banger of a quote.

phil e the theyby

"Someone, somewhere sold his labor in the marketplace, or grew rich in finance, or exploited the abundance of nature, and the patron turns that wealth into a gift to feed the gifted." (360) "...fidelity to one's gifts often draws energy away from the activities by which men become rich." (365) Let's be 100% real and transparent about what we're doing here; anyone who succeeds financially is "problematic," in that they in same space or another have debased the sanctity of the gift and entered into the crass logos of the market. Mentally moving away from actually having a PROBLEM with what is "problematic" has been a really important shift in my own life. As someone who grew up a counterculture, "fuck the world" and "humans are bad" type, getting to a point where I actually consistently WANT to be alive has required making a kind of peace for the necessity of market logic. We could all live in small communities built on gift economies. We could! We'd just have to eradicate most of the human population to do that. Since I'd rather not eradicate most of the human population, I've needed to develop a more understanding view of the market, seeing it as uncaring in the way that a wave on the ocean is uncaring rather than the way an asshole is uncaring. The part in the afterward about public institutions being encouraged to think of themselves as private businesses, and the commodification of natural abundance, was depressing as fuck. There are some parts of the market we have to make our peace with, and there are some parts of the market we have to fight. I think to me, this feels like a very necessary fight. This book came at a VERY interesting time (and taking longer to read it because of the pause in posts was oddly serendipitous). I'm at a point of preparing to leave my university counseling center job at a large public university to go into private practice (for the sake of making more money and being less financially reliant on rich in-laws....make a lot of money is the move right now). Leaving the infrastructure and gift economy that's built into a public university system leads me to think a lot about how I enter into private practice in a way that embodies the spirit of community and the gift in a (suburban) community that doesn't value it the way that a public university does. Since we've started reading this book, I've developed a whole long-term business plan for creating a group practice whose operation is heavily inspired by the ideas in The Gift (and especially the idea of the syntheses of market-based and gift-based economic principles) and the things CJ's been writing/saying about this book and about business more generally, as well as trying to bring general Kill the Internet ideas into the community for free, in ways that actually draw people together. Jreg probably deserves some credit too, as his rants about community are definitely fuel that inspires me to channel resources and energy in that direction (against my more natural state of staying in my own lane and not talking to anyone). I don't have much more to share about that (though I'm happy to answer any questions about specific details) other than, I guess, thank you? To CJ for making the space, and also to everyone here (in this book or in all the other book club posts) and elsewhere who made Kill the Internet bigger than just CJ. I'm excited for what comes next, and hope to honor the gift that's been given here by giving it away with some solid increase. EDIT: I am also sick like CJ and Ayana. Disease, it abounds!


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