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"Overrated Virtues"

🕑 Added 2020-07-16 12:05:00 +0000 UTC

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Brittane Phelps

I liked the topic on letting go of negative people. I had a similar problem with my birth father. I find him to be quite negative to me and others. I had talked to my therapist years ago about it and I thought I would share what she said. I kept saying, "I love my father, but he's just mean. Even if I tell him how I feel, he doesn't care." I asked her how do I handle that? She said," in life you will come across many people you will love, but its important to know that you can love someone and not let them walk all over you. Setting boundaries can allow you to say I love you, but I will not let you hurt me." That always stuck with me and maybe one of you might be needing that advice as well.

Alana

Thanks for a great episode! I really liked the discussion on meta considerate/inconsiderate. In Japan we have a saying that doesn't really translate that is on point - "arigatameiwaku," which generally translates as "grateful nuisance" - you're grateful for their intention but it's actually a burden or nuisance to you. Thought your explanation on meta inconsiderate is on point with the general reflection that absolutely everything people do or say are are reflections of their own feelings, so by thinking they are being nice, etc, they are really reflecting their own desire to be liked, or do something they think will be appreciated. Good intentions don't always result in good actions. Thanks!