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Video: "The Ego Trap"
🕑 Added 2021-01-14 13:01:04 +0000 UTCPatreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan talk about letting go of presumed burdens and perceived obligations, and they answer the following questions:
Why do we write? (01:20)
How are opinions and beliefs detrimental to the truth? (12:38)
What is the ego trap? (13:06)
What is the difference between self-glorification and self-fulfillment? (30:18)
Is the root of our problems an ‘us versus them’ mentality? (40:14)
How can charity not be a wholly good thing? (54:16)
What is the ‘code of honor’? (1:00:06)
As a returning college student, I’m pushed to join everything, do community service projects, campus projects, etc., and scholarships often depend on who appears to “care for others the most”—how do I balance all of that? (1:02:37)
Can we love conditionally? (1:04:33)
Can we care too much? (1:05:31)
How can hope be a dangerous thing? (1:09:30)
How do we love someone but be untethered from their pain? (1:14:18)
How can wanting to fix something be bad? (1:20:03)
How do I permanently say ‘no’ to after-hours networking events that my employer hosts without risking my job? (1:22:22)
What are toxic expectations? (1:24:49)
What should I do about a job I love that has obligations I dislike? (1:25:06)
How do I prioritize and balance my professional and personal obligations? (1:31:40)
How do I appropriately address family obligations, and balance them with my own personal obligations, when my spouse works and most of them fall to me? (1:34:11)
What is the difference between drive and commitment? (1:41:12)
What is the difference between pain and suffering? (1:44:18)
When does something cease to be a burden? (1:45:40)
How do 20-somethings not feel burdened with trying to do everything when they’re building a career to do meaningful things with their lives? (1:48:55)
How do we appropriately address burdens? (1:51:30)
LINKS
Book: Hell Yeah or No
Book: The Way to Love
Class: How to Write Better
Essay: Compassion for Hypocrites
Essay: Confined by Attachment
Essay: Letting Go Is Not Something You Do
Essay: Success Does Not Exist
Essay: The Solution Is the Problem
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Listen: “Purple Rain Thing”
Podcast: How to Love
Podcast: Minimalism Today
Podcast: Obligations
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MAXIMS
“Every obligation is a perceived obligation.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“We’re never running toward happiness—we’re always running from misery.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“The best way to take care of others is to first take care of yourself.” —Ryan Nicodemus
“Change happens not from how often we say ‘yes,’ but when we say ‘yes’ to only that which propels us toward our destination.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“‘No’ is the most freeing word in the world—it is often the most compassionate, too.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Boulders can be set down as easily as they were picked up.” —Ryan Nicodemus
“You can’t prioritize your desires.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“If you pursue enlightenment, you will never be enlightened.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Our freedom increases in relation to our exposure to the truth.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“To do the thing we can’t not do, we must also do some things we’d rather do without.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
This Maximal episode corresponds with Minimal episode 270.
Comments
The moment you decide to "share" your thoughts, by reading them for example, you enter the circle, the circle that makes you feel the need to specify "this is not advice", instantly showing you the flaws of the thing you're reading or writing. There is advice without ego, often advices are hard truth that need to be told, even at the risk of damaging one's relationship, often it means sacrifice yourself for the right thing to do, for meaning. Great show guys. Have a wonderful day all.
Andy Jenks
I found the part about loving someone while not being pained by their suffering fascinating. I think it can be explained by observing and attempting to lower the total amount of suffering currently happening. When someone I love is in pain, my worries and psychological pain is only adding to the total suffering and not alleviating anything. However, I'll provide what I can to help that person. alleviating more suffering. I can see that one might think this is insensitive or not love, but I have this inclination to think that the heart of love is detachment from outcomes (unconditional love), possibly even "radical acceptance" which is not uncaring, but leaving ones ego out of the situation so it can't interfere with loving. Even so-called caring emotions have a bad side.
Liberty Kyser
I enjoyed the "ribs of an umbrella" imagery. How do you discern "the truth" from your opinion or "your truth?" Seems egotistical to declare a truth. Have you read the "Advice Trap?" I recently ordered it and look forward to reading it soon.
