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Video: "Communal Living"
🕑 Added 2021-03-04 13:00:03 +0000 UTCPatreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss the multitude of positives and negatives associated with communal living with the CEO and cofounder of Nourish Balance Thrive, Christopher Kelly, and they answer the following questions:
What is the difference between a religion and a cult? (01:08)
At what point might a commune turn into a cult? (03:41)
How do you define “community”? (06:19)
How do you define “sharing”? (08:41)
What is a “throuple”? (14:47)
What is Christopher’s experience regarding an open relationship? (17:56)
What is a “cleft relationship”? (19:29)
Is there value in ‘decriminalizing’ adultery? (19:49)
How do you prevent opening up a relationship from destroying it? (22:05)
What likely causes most open relationships to fail? (25:12)
Wouldn’t our children be raised better in a tribal environment with a support network of other parents, children, and elders? (27:41)
Why does it seem like we don’t value our elders as much anymore? (29:56)
Are we unwittingly training our children to look down on others? (32:49)
What benefits have you realized from sleeping in a tent? (34:50)
What are the sleeping arrangements in your commune? (36:07)
How can poor associative behaviors affect our sleep? (37:12)
What is “relationship anarchy”? (40:50)
What are the unexpected upsides and downsides of communal living for Chris? (43:01)
What is “partible paternity”? (50:42)
Is the revised American Dream to build an equitable and ecologically responsible society? (53:35)
What is “justice jealousy”? (54:22)
What is the value of novelty? (58:38)
How do we help live-in seniors we’re caring for who can’t let go of stuff? (1:01:08)
What are some successful examples of the nomadic life? (1:07:47)
How is long-term singlehood a viable option for some without becoming lonely? (1:13:20)
What do you mean by “ambient people”? (1:15:45)
What would be the ideal building configuration for your communal living arrangement? (1:24:41)
LINKS
Article: How to Navigate Your First Throuple
Book: Atomic Habits
Book: Civilized to Death
Book: Daily Rituals
Book: Love People, Use Things
Book: Minimalist Rulebook
Book: Mothers and Others
Book: Nonviolent Communication
Book: Polysecure
Book: Radical Candor
Book: Sex at Dawn
Book: The Gardner and the Carpenter
Book: The Philosophical Baby
Book: The Righteous Mind
Email: Christopher Kelly
Instagram: Christopher Kelly
Instagram: Jordan Moore
Instagram: Podcast Shawn
Instagram: Jess Williams
Podcast: Peter Gray
Podcast: Kristen Hawkes
Podcast: How to Love
Podcast: Dr. Damon Korb
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Text: 937-202-4654
Tour: The Minimalists
Twitter: Christopher Kelly
Watch: Nomadland
Website: Nourish Balance Thrive
MAXIMS
“Searching for ‘pros’ tethers us to the ‘cons.’” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Unusual is usually ideal.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“A genuine life doesn’t require someone else’s approval.” —Ryan Nicodemus
“The only significance things have are the significance we give them.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
This Maximal episode corresponds with Minimal episode 277.
Comments
Laura Hugel
Well this is now officially my favorite episode. I've been interested in communal living for years. What Christopher was talking about at the end exists as Co-Housing. I've been researching, and touring, co-housing in Northern Calif. and that will probably be my next move. I would like to find a community of like minded people of mixed ages. The people that I've talked to all seem to love living in their communities and people rarely leave. Christopher you are amazing and thank you so very much for sharing your ideas. I know that it's not easy to have ideas outside of the cultural norm.
Bell Majchrzak
About the best place situation for a community that Chris mentions at the and - Those places, he described already exist in that exact structure in Denmark. They call it bofællesskab. Meik Wiking's book "The Little Book of Lykke" has an entire chapter about it. Worth to read :)
