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"The Best Worst Advice"
🕑 Added 2021-04-22 12:05:01 +0000 UTCPatreon Exclusive. Joshua and Ryan discuss why most advice is flawed advice, and they address the following questions and advice:
What are you leaving behind in the wake of the pandemic? (00:00)
Why are our solutions often worse than our problems? (11:26)
What is some bad advice you’ve received? (13:13)
How can we become more uniting and less dividing? (20:47)
Shouldn’t we fully understand something before we take action? (57:16)
What is the problem with ‘fake it ‘til you make it’? (59:03)
Why do we often feel like frauds? (1:03:13)
Any advice I haven’t asked for is bad advice. (1:12:41)
Any advice from someone I wouldn’t trade places with is bad advice. (1:15:50)
If you just obey all the rules, nothing bad will happen. (1:18:30)
Just buy it—you deserve it. (1:20:23)
Put it all in a storage unit and sort through it when you have time. (1:22:41)
Buy a house at the top end of whatever amount the bank is willing to loan you because your cost-of-living raises at work will cover it. (1:26:03)
Finance things to improve your credit rating. (1:27:33)
Never turn something you love to do into a career or you’ll start to hate it. (1:31:27)
It’s a good thing to always have some debt and payments. (1:32:16)
Never have debt or use it to build credit. (1:32:45)
Do more, work harder, do better. (1:34:55)
Better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it. (1:35:47)
You just need to relax. (1:36:37)
Stop feeling [insert any emotion here]. (1:36:55)
“He teases you because he likes you” and “He hits you because he likes you.” (1:39:34)
Student loans get you a great education; they’re worth it for a pedigree degree. (1:43:34)
“Don’t buy a house” and “Don’t ever take on a job with any responsibilities.” (1:45:15)
My husband told me I needed to go back to school and get another degree for a career I didn’t want; I told him I didn’t want it, and he said I was wrong. (1:49:13)
Learn how to multitask to get more things done at the same time. (1:51:06)
If your partner doesn't say ‘I love you’ within six months, then leave. (1:56:28)
Bitcoin sounds like a scam—$80 just isn’t worth it for a single Bitcoin! (2:05:08)
Do what you love and the money will come. (2:08:35)
Don’t hold your baby too much. (2:10:02)
You’ll have plenty of time to figure out what to do for the rest of your life. (2:13:29)
Always try to be the best at what you do. (2:17:01)
You haven’t lived until you’ve had children. (2:20:12)
You should have given a cheating spouse another chance. (2:21:40)
What is a “cleft relationship?” (2:23:47)
If you worked less and were home more, then maybe your husband would come back. (2:25:00)
LINKS
Article: What We’re Leaving Behind
Book: A World without Email
Book: Love People, Use Things
Book: Minimalist Rulebook
Book: The Way to Love
Book: Whatever You Think, Think the Opposite
Class: How to Write Better
Essay: Changing Your Life Won’t Change Your Life
Essay: Retirement Planning
Essay: Stimulate the Economy Like a Minimalist
Essay: The Advice Epidemic
Instagram: Jordan Moore
Instagram: Podcast Shawn
Instagram: Jess Williams
Listen: “Crooked Smile”
Listen: “Pink Moon”
Podcast: How to Love
Podcast: Cal Newport
Podcast: Think the Opposite
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Text: 937-202-4654
Tour: The Minimalists
Twitter: Joshua Fields Millburn
Watch: Let’s Talk About the Economy
MAXIMS
“Decluttering is a byproduct of understanding that consumerism is the problem.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Action apes the form of understanding.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Don’t seek out the ‘how’ until you understand the ‘why.’” —Ryan Nicodemus
“The problem occurs when we compromise what we want to get what we want today.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Never-ending growth worries about competition and increased expectations; intentional growth contemplates cooperation and higher standards.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Never-ending growth is never-ending satisfaction.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“Letting go isn’t something you do—it’s something you stop doing.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“All advice is flawed advice.” —Ryan Nicodemus
“Progress is achieved not through addition but through subtraction.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“You know what to do when you know what enough is.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“If you have to do what you love, you’ll stop loving what you have to do.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“You desire what you desire despite what others want for you.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
“All advice is good or bad advice in hindsight.” —Joshua Fields Millburn
This Maximal episode corresponds with Minimal episode 284.
Comments
Danny Lee
Great episode guys, like always. I wanted to give you guys some constructive feedback regarding your back and forth with each other. In this podcast I heard Ryan say, "I have to choose my word so careful with you" which signifies that he is not free to express his thoughts as he wishes. There are multiple episodes where Ryan would make a point and Josh would say, "I disagree". Disagreements are okay and healthy, but when it is said so abruptly it just halts the rhythm of the podcast. As a listener, I feel the disruption of the rhythm, as Ryan now has to defend and explain what he just said to Josh. You guys are great and I am thankful for what you two do. I just wanted to give you feedback from a listener's (just one, mind you) perspective.
Daniel Artzer
I really like that approach... definitely seems like a freeing perspective/mentality!
Allison
I can't wait to listen to this episode but like Jennifer said, it can be very freeing not to call yourself by what you do. My husband recently got in the habit of saying we are farming instead of calling ourselves farmers because somehow it takes the pressure off of performance when your identity isn't so closely attached. Besides, one day we will do something else for a career but today we make money growing vegetables...
