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"Other People's Expectations"

🕑 Added 2021-05-09 12:01:01 +0000 UTC

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Elizabeth A.

"Parenting is not about control".....this is so important! I'm sure it's hard for many parents to NOT continue the cycle of raising their children how their parents raised them - especially if it was a very strict household. I also feel that (for some reason - not sure why) as a lesbian, it's not "expected" of me to be a mother. It seems to be more of "oh, do you want children?" instead of "So....when are you having kids?". It seems that as soon as I let someone (who is straight) know that I'm gay that the expectations of marriage and family are gone. Many of those in my community (Rainbow mafia as I like to call it) do want marriage and family which I think is great.....for them. I've always known since I was in middle school that I never wanted to get married or have kids. I still have no desire for either. But I feel that although there might be many women, regardless of orientation, who also have no desire for marriage and/or children but are either pressured by family (for whatever reason) or feel pressured by peers. I do recognize that I feel relief because I don't have such pressures and my family have never placed that on me. Great episode!