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Maximal Ep. 356 | Judgment
🕑 Added 2022-09-05 11:05:59 +0000 UTCPatreon Exclusive. The Minimalists are joined by musician and YouTuber Ruslan to talk about judgment as emotional clutter.
Discussed in this episode:
How do we help our children control their emotions? (03:23)
Will I unduly risk advancing in my career if I delay taking advantage of continuing education and new opportunities for a few years? (17:20)
What obligations do entertainers have regarding their audience? (26:56)
How do we tactfully address unwanted gifts, especially those gifted with questionable intent? (38:25)
How do we stop letting go? (43:47)
How do we temper our judgment of others? (48:59)
Listener comments and minimalism tips. (55:36)
Why did Ruslan pivot from musician to YouTube creator? (59:22)
Why did Ruslan choose to focus on doing commentary on others’ videos? (1:00:50)
What gave rise to new creators during the pandemic? (1:04:57)
What is problematic about an inordinate focus on high production values? (1:06:01)
What lessons has Ruslan learned in his new pursuit? (1:12:58)
Should art be judged not only on its own merit, but equally on that of its creator? (1:15:22)
How do you mitigate the risk of admitting fault? (1:19:40)
How have people weaponized the labeling of others? (1:21:01)
Segment: Lightning Round (1:23:08)
How do we best manage the judgment of loved ones? (1:23:44)
Where do Ruslan and The Minimalists disagree on judgment? (1:24:59)
What is the difference between description and prescription? (1:27:37)
Why is it important to draw a distinction between judging a person and judging a process? (1:36:15)
What prompted Joshua to comment on Ruslan’s Kendrick Lamar video? (1:38:09)
Why should we be concerned with calling bad “good” and good “bad”? (1:41:36)
Segment: More About Less (1:52:59)
What is concerning about New Age ethos? (1:59:21)
How do I ask my partner to accept me more as my true self after a significant time has passed in our relationship? (2:06:01)
How do I address coworkers that use inappropriate language or discuss inappropriate topics at work? (2:13:41)
Segment: Checkout-Line Wisdom (2:24:33)
Aren’t we obligated to stay informed about world affairs in the news despite the insidious presence of ads? (2:29:16)
Segment: Advertisements Suck (2:32:35)
Is any press truly good press? (2:34:51)
Segment: Amass It or Trash It (2:38:13)
Segment: Obsolete Objects (2:42:09)
What is the difference between an obsolete item and a vintage item? (2:42:36)
Segment: Photo Friday Home Tour (2:45:51)
What is “object a”? (2:46:22)
Segment: Right Here, Right Now (2:55:32)
Segment: Added Value (2:56:01)
LINKS
Added Value: “Rich Spirit”
Article: Eckhart Tolle Quotes
Book: Essential
Book: Love People, Use Things
Clothing: Los Angeles Apparel
Clothing: Save Khaki
Event: Sunday Symposium
Listen: “Friends”
Listen: White Ladder
Podcast: Bobby Berk
Podcast: Hoarders
Podcast: How to Love
Podcast: Matt Nathanson
Podcast: Political Clutter
Podcast: Peter Rollins
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Text: 937-202-4654
Twitter: Ella Sandwich
Watch: Minimalism
Watch: Kendrick Lamar’s Album Reaction
Watch: The Minimalists Accused Me of This
Watch: The Obsolete Man
Website: How to Write Better
Website: Ruslan
MAXIMS
Emotions are great airplane passengers—but horrible pilots.
Debt doesn’t drain only your bank account; debt drains your freedom.
Acceptance is nice, but needing acceptance is a prison.
Gift-giving is no more a love language than pig Latin is a Romance language.
Letting go is not something you do; letting go is something you stop doing.
Simplify to be free, not to be a “good minimalist.”
Judgment is a mirror that reflects the insecurities of the judge.
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Comments
Emma
We appreciate you, Kathleen!
Kathleen Stock
First of all, thank you for the diverse conversations. That’s why I’m here. I hope my statement wasn’t taken as criticism to the content. It was definitely not. I think of this podcast like a grocery store. There’s a lot in here, and some of it isn’t for me. Not every ingredient in the store is in my house because I have no need, or it isn’t my taste, or perhaps I have an adverse reaction if I ingest it. This particular episode was for me (and I dislike this word) “triggering”. Suggestions? Keep having the conversations. In several years of being a Minimalist, this is the first time I’ve skipped an episode. I enjoy hearing from other patrons. I wonder sometimes what their stories are. Are they like mine? Are they different? Thanks!
Emma
Thanks for your feedback, Kathleen! Any useful suggestions for the future?
Kathleen Stock
I appreciate The Minimalists always having a conversation with people of all kinds of backgrounds but this one for me, I’m not about it. Can’t finish it. I’m sure it’s my own shit that’s needs unpacking but my days of listening to Christian dudes talk about being worldly, yada yada. I’m out. Onto the next one. No idea who Kendrick Lamar is, had to ask my 20 yr old son but if he’s getting his Tolle on, have at, bud.
