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Maximal Ep. 381 | Perfectionism (Video)
🕑 Added 2023-02-27 12:00:04 +0000 UTCThe Minimalists talk with author and psychotherapist Katherine Morgan Schafler about perfectionism, letting go of the “perfect” self, perfectionism at work, procrastination, finding balance between hobbies, overcoming resistance, and more!
Discussed in this episode:
How do I overcome my perfectionist tendencies so I can get my work done? (03:18)
What are your perspectives regarding power? (05:25)
How do we address an unhealthy obsession with perfectionism? (13:54)
How do I live peacefully with a non-minimalist? (18:33)
What are the five types of perfectionists? (27:58)
How do I let go of others’ expectations of me? (32:16)
How do we make time for our passions and still fulfill our obligations and responsibilities? (40:33)
What can students do to better balance a full course load and personal time? (51:22)
How do you define “perfectionism”? (58:03)
Segment: Lightning Round (1:04:24)
How do The Minimalists make money without ad revenue? (1:04:57)
Segment: Right Here, Right Now (1:10:59)
What is the difference between procrastination and resistance? (1:12:50)
Listener comments and minimalism tips. (1:15:14)
Segment: Talkaboutables (1:17:14)
What are your views regarding toxic masculinity? (1:17:18)
What is our society’s obsession with being offended? (1:24:33)
Segment: T.K.’s Tweet of the Week (1:36:42)
How do you appropriately manage guilt? (1:37:25)
Segment: Obsolete Objects (1:40:45)
Segment: Sucky Ads (1:45:56)
Segment: Photo Friday Home Tour (1:56:57)
What can I do to let go of trying to control the future and live more fully in the present? (2:01:06)
Segment: Added Value (2:06:53)
LINKS
Added Value: “Smile”
Added Value: Washcloth
Book: The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control
Book: The War of Art
Course: How to Write Better
Essay: 1,000 True Fans
Event: Sunday Symposium
Podcast: The Prof G Pod
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Tour: The Minimalists
Website: Katherine Morgan Schafler
MAXIMS
Perfection cannot be attained; it is the default state of the universe.
Decluttering does not bring peace—it creates the environment in which peace is not disturbed.
Perfectionism is the path away from peace.
Life has no crystalline endpoint other than death; until then, the river of self continues to flow, change, reform.
Balance is the default state. Life is out of balance only when too many obligations are heaped onto your plate.
Resistance is a beacon that illuminates meaningful pursuits.
For most of history, people earned money without a single advertisement.
Money is the byproduct of adding value.
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Comments
Ricardo C Pinzon Jr
Team! Great episode! I listened to it today. Yes, I am behind, but the Maximals are so chock of information. Towards the end, you mentioned the home tours. I am currently living in a hotel room. Not because I'm homeless or my wife kicked me out, but because of work (3.5 weeks). (FYI. I also lived in a hotel in March for 3.5 weeks.) One thing I have realized is how much less I can live with. My first trip I had to limit my belongings because I was traveling cross country. This trip, I was able to carry more because I was driving. Bottomline though, I have literally lived the minimalists life for almost the last 7 weeks. Less shirts, less trousers, etc. I only have what I need for the trip. When I return home, I'll be seeking more ways to minimalize my belongings. I purged a few years ago. Now it's time to do it again. Thanks again, Team, for such an awesome episode! Time to continue catching up. Wishing all hands, continued success! Regards, Rick Patreon Subscriber from Stafford, Va
TGBahr
What a great guest, I really needed that! I really like her insights, energy and genuineness. I am often waiting until the last day of my vacation or weekend to utilise the pressure to push me over the finish line with things I tend to procrastinate on. Especially when it's about anxiety provocing tasks or when decisions of long lasting consequences have to be made that I can hardly predict. I also appreciate you guys touching on the subject of masculinity. Has anyone ever heard of "toxic femininity"? I consider "toxic masculinity" a battle term of radical feminists, and nothing else. As a man, I value a feminine woman. As the sexes are psychologically opposite or different in some ways, this means of course that is not always easy to get along. Everyone knows this. To the feminists, I would really love to see their faces after a week of all men having taken a vacation from this planet. How I would love that, just to see them peddling back. As soon as human beings are put in a natural environment, it would become so obvious again to these women, why they would want some tough masculine men around to get things done and to protect them from the weather and to put real food before them. Civilisational infrastructure is largely built and maintained by men, and it masks how much hard work and thought is being put into it every hour of the day, to make a comfortable life possible for also these feminists to have time to tend to their delusions. If masculinity would be toxic in any way,, how come we men are so damn patient with cultural nonsense like this? What this destructive ideology has already done psychologically to boys and young men is almost unimaginable.
