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Maximal Ep. 383 | Heartbreak (Video)
🕑 Added 2023-03-13 11:00:04 +0000 UTCThe Minimalists talk with Dr. Cortney Warren about heartbreak, letting go of your ex, managing expectations and guilt after divorce, the difference between clinging and sentimentality, how to express empathy for your partner, starting new relationships, and more!
Discussed in this episode:
How do we break our emotional and physical attachments to our exes? (01:46)
What faulty beliefs do we harbor regarding our exes? (03:25)
Why do we undervalue what we bring to relationships? (07:10)
How do I appropriately address the expectations of my children regarding my ex? (15:52)
How do we let go of our resentment for our exes? (17:44)
What can we do to foster cooperation through questions instead of demands? (21:44)
How do we avoid engaging in blame with exes? (23:01)
What is problematic with us finding “power in our wounds”? (24:05)
What can I do to manage my feelings of pity for my ex? (26:38)
What are the different kinds of pity? (32:41)
Are there circumstances that warrant giving an ex a second chance? (35:09)
What is the danger in having faith in fate? (35:27)
Is there a difference between clinging to someone versus having a sentimental attachment to someone? (38:35)
Is love actually a human need? (39:34)
Is there any value in matching the emotions of our loved ones in tense situations? (43:22)
How do we let go of idealistic memories of exes? (50:50)
How do we let go of expectations when starting a new relationship? (56:05)
How do we ensure we amicably break up before we succumb to cheating? (1:02:09)
How do we meet our needs without heaping expectations onto others? (1:03:19)
Segment: Lightning Round (1:04:57)
How do we ensure our own happiness instead of expecting it from our significant others? (1:05:27)
What are the three essentials of all relationships? (1:08:32)
What are the differences between standards and expectations? (1:11:33)
Segment: Right Here, Right Now (1:12:31)
Is there an appropriate time to move on from a partner who is struggling with seemingly insurmountable challenges? (1:14:34)
Listener comments and minimalism tips. (1:22:03)
Segment: Talkaboutables (1:23:52)
What are the attributes of an ideal government? (1:30:00)
What is the significance of unfollowing your ex on social media? (1:42:29)
How do we appropriately address cheating with a significant other? (1:48:10)
Segment: T.K.’s Tweet of the Week (1:57:22)
Segment: Minimalist Home Tour (2:04:17)
How do we tactfully end a relationship built on false pretenses? (2:08:15)
Segment: More About Less (2:12:36)
What is the advantage of being curious over being competitive? (2:15:00)
Segment: Added Value (2:16:24)
LINKS
Added Value: “Leave It In”
Book: Letting Go of Your Ex
Book: Live a Meaningful Life
Book: Love People, Use Things
Book: Against Empathy
Book: The Sedona Method
Chair: Varier Variable Balans
Essay: I Want to Lose Every Debate
Event: Sunday Symposium
Podcast: Perfectionism
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Twitter: Ahmad the Poet
Watch: Corruption Is Legal in America
Watch: Less Is Now
Website: Dr. Courtney Warren
MAXIMS
Healing is the gateway to letting go.
Acceptance is a tool to declutter expectations.
Their success is not your responsibility.
Clinging is what happens when we cannot let go.
Empathy is not the same thing as love.
You picked it up, so you can set it down.
Communication is not a substitute for chemistry.
Love is not tethered to expectations.
No one can make you happy; they can only enhance the joy that exists inside you.
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Comments
TGBahr
That was a helpful episode for me, thank you. I have to let all that sit for a while. You guys are phenomenal.
