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Maximal Ep. 393 | Psychological Clutter
🕑 Added 2023-05-22 11:01:01 +0000 UTCThe Minimalists speak with psychologist Dr. John Delony about psychological clutter, the anatomy of hope, enduring chronic physical pain, repairing broken trust, the feeling of an uncluttered mind, and much more!
Discussed in this episode:
What are your views regarding hope? (01:58)
What are the two kinds of hope? (04:35)
What do you consider the differences between wishing and hoping? (06:30)
How do you define “faith”? (09:48)
How do we best manage chronic pain and suffering? (32:03)
What do you think of unsolicited help? (43:06)
How do you address loved ones who don’t invite you to family gatherings? (44:44)
What are the two types of desires? (47:45)
How do we compassionately discuss contentious topics with loved ones when it involves them? (53:13)
Why are secrets so problematic? (55:52)
How do we unclutter our minds? (1:04:34)
How do we keep our personal and professional lives separated? (1:11:54)
Segment: Lightning Round (1:19:37)
Isn’t compromise an integral part of a romantic relationship? (1:20:53)
What are the three C’s of compromise? (1:23:40)
Segment: Right Here, Right Now (1:28:42)
Listener comments and minimalism tips. (1:32:29)
Segment: Talkaboutables (1:34:50)
Segment: Minimalist Home Tour (1:39:37)
Segment: More About Less (1:42:52)
What is the “test-taking mindset”? (1:50:12)
What is “E-Prime”? (1:50:48)
What is the “burden of self-righteousness”? (1:53:02)
Segment: Added Value (1:55:50)
LINKS
Added Value: “Be On Your Way”
Added Value: Sleep Mask
Book: Building a Non-Anxious Life
Book: Goodbye, Things
Book: Minimalist Rulebook
Book: The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control
Course: Simplify Everything
Essay: How to Make Tomorrow the Most Joyous Day
Instagram: Katherine Morgan Schafler
Podcast: Clint Ober
Podcast: Katherine Morgan Schafler
Resources: The Minimalists
Subscribe: The Minimalists
Watch: Less Is Now
Watch: The Dr. John Deloney Show
Website: Dr. John Deloney
Website: Earthing
MAXIMS
Hope is expectation dressed in a tuxedo.
Psychological clutter exists at the intersection of mental and emotional clutter.
Suffering is the inability to let go of pain.
Every new desire adds another bar to your prison cell.
An uncluttered mind is untethered from the past and the future.
How might your life be more with less?
Good and bad emotions exist only in the cluttered head of the beholder.
Love inspires the desire to support, not to sacrifice.
Compromise doesn’t require condescension.
Love does not require compromise, commitment, or covenant—it requires awareness.
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Comments
Laura Goodman
I listened to this at the time it came out. It was another wonderful episode, thank you! What stands out to me is the "unsolicited help" and those who "need to be needed" in our friend or family circles, it can be very frustrating. Clash of expectations! You guys do a beautiful job of unpacking a lot of these complex situations and I enjoy how you dive so deep into concepts. Thank you 🧡
Jessica Elyse
Thanks for answering my question so thoughtfully, guys. I was so absorbed in your thoughts about the anatomy of hope, and the different interpretations. It brought me a lot of clarity and a newfound awareness. Thank you for the superb content, as usual!
