Maximal Ep. 412 | Building a Non-Anxious Life
🕑 Added 2023-10-02 11:00:03 +0000 UTCThe Minimalists speak with psychologist Dr. John Delony about finding peace in difficult times, dealing with heartbreak, aligning our consumption with our values, choosing to be vulnerable, finding the energy to start letting go, severing relationships that no longer serve us, and more.
Discussed in this episode:
How can I learn to be at peace with myself? (02:29)
How can I get back custody of my children? (12:28)
How do I let go of heartbreak? (22:13)
How can we consume intentionally within our values? (31:14)
How can we vet the people with whom we chose to be vulnerable? (42:13)
How do I muster enough energy to start letting go? (47:40)
Should we let go of people who no longer serve us? (56:06)
Why do The Minimalists post to social media? (01:02:58)
What if peace isn’t our natural state? (01:09:41)
How do you maintain a minimalist lifestyle when you have a lot to prioritize? (01:15:50)
Why does Dr. Delony let his wife call all the shots? (01:18:15)
What are the six daily choices we can make to eliminate anxiety? (01:36:50)
When grounding, is it normal to feel worse before you feel better? (01:54:45)
LINKS
Added Value: Jessie Murph, “What Happened to Ryan”
Book: Building a Non-Anxious Life
Book: Earthing
Book: The Mother Earth Effect
Event: Julio Vincent Gambuto
Podcast: Decluttering the Gut
Podcast: Food Clutter
Podcast: Minimize Fat
Watch: The Dr. John Delony Show
Website: Earthing.com
Subscribe: The Minimalists' Newsletter
MAXIMS
Peace exists only in the NOW, never in the past or future
The difficult times shape the contours of a meaningful life.
Our preferences shape the stories we tell ourselves; the stories we tell ourselves shape our preferences going forward.
If you agree with someone totally, you lack your own point of view.
Many nice people are not kind people.
Success is not measured by your achievements; it is measured by your freedom.
It is possible to let go of someone and still love them from a distance.
Letting go is loving; clinging is unloving.
You don’t have to demonize to declutter.
Scrolling is the new smoking.
Clinging requires more energy than letting go.
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Comments
Jen Endsley
The story about the IT guy at the school hit me. I’m successful at my job (HR Manager at a factory) and my job is solid. At 55, I’m now rethinking if I want to finish out my career and the next 15 years at this job or this type of job. This thinking envelopes the questions of if I should go for more HR certifications. Now I think the questions are different and point towards if the job fulfills my passion of helping others and if I need another certification will help me fulfill my passion better. Additionally, the guy was helping people but he had further passion to make sure kids are educate. I need to rethink how my helping people fuels the further passion. Thank you for the great insight.
JANIS MURRAY
Who sang the last song and its name, I dont see it in the show notes
This has been one of my favorite episodes. Having Dr John as a guest, and the combination with the two of you, was gold. It took me two weeks of 20 min/day stretches to listen to this and every single part was packed with so much wisdoms. As you come to “how do I want my Wednesday to feel like” was the point when I had to pause and tell you “well done”. Regards from Sweden ❤️
The Minimalists
So happy to hear about your reduction in inflammation. Thanks for sharing, Mamie! Feel free to email it as a voice recording if you'd like us to feature it on the show!
The Minimalists
A very thoughtful comment, Diana. Thanks for sharing. Feel free to email it as a voice recording if you'd like us to feature it on the show!
So I wanted to put my two cents in about Dave Ramsey and gay people. I’m a lesbian and listen to his show and follow his advice. Some days his rants about liberals and drag queens is off putting BUT I have listened to shows where LGBTQ+ couples have called in asking for advice and his treats them the same, offers the same advice, and even told one lesbian couple that they seem like awesome people and was cutting up and laughing with them. He is a very religious man and has his beliefs, which don’t always align with mine, but I know he’d be kind and respectful if we ever met.
Thanks for mentioning the Earthing process today. I knew in the back of my mind that Herxing "can" happen, but didn't think it would happen so quickly. I didn't read until later that people sensitive to EMFs might react quickly to Earthing (that's me). After the third day of sleeping on the mat. I just leaned into it, and took some detox support supplements to reduce the headaches, drank more water, and did lymphatic drainage 1-2x a day. After almost two weeks, I feel like I am at the other end but still detoxing. My inflammation has greatly reduced but the detox symptoms have been a struggle. I guess this is where I start my decluttering and minimalist goal--from within me.