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Finding Relationships | The Horny Post | 3/16/2024
🕑 Added 2024-03-17 07:00:05 +0000 UTCA lot of us wonder why it's so hard to find a romantic relationship. As someone who has been in 4 relationships in 4 years, I am here to tell you the simple secret to finding one.
Don't.
Don't try so hard. It may be paradoxical, but let me explain. Many of us believe that finding a romantic relationship is amongst the most important things in the world. That it's at the top of the bucket list and that if we fail to check it off we are failures in life. Let me stop you right there because that is what holds us back. It is my opinion that you don't need a romantic relationship to be happy despite my online persona literally being a manifestation of the desire to be married. When you predicate your existence on having a relationship you tend to stop living your life. And when you stop living your life you have less charactertics that people may be attracted to. Bit of a headache, I know. But the idea is that instead of actively looking for partners through dating apps or social circles you work on yourself as a person. Focus on educating and enriching yourself. Apply for financial aid (https://studentaid.gov/h/apply-for-aid/fafsa) and go to a community college for free. Work on getting better at a job you love or taking up a hobby. Learn to be a better friend, how to empathize with your opposition, and tell the people you care for that you love them. Improving yourself should far surpass finding a relationship on your bucket list.
Bettering yourself in the ways you can and finding emotional security will make you the best version of yourself. And when you are what you always could be relationships start developing naturally. I can almost promise you that barring any extreme cases.
3/4 of my relationships just kind of happened. My first in 2019 was through the App That Shall Not Be Named. I wasn't looking for a relationship when they happened. I was in college struggling to be a better person. By doing so, people came to me. As much as I tout romantic relationships, they're really not my priority in my life. I would like to be a boywife, but failing to be one won't be a devastation. For the last half year since leaving college I have been focusing on making videos, fixing my familial relationships, and recovering from genuine trauma. I have not been focusing on the relationship I do have, but focusing on myself. And frankly, that is for the better.
Just remember that you're not working on myself to find a relationship. If you do it only in the hopes of getting bussy you may find yourself bussyless.
Comments
Madeline Razo
You are on the right path. I hope you get everything you want
Neophyte Nomad
Im definitely in that "Work on myself" mode of life right now. Thing is, it's be so long since I've last been in a relationship that the idea of someone wanting to spend that kind of time with me just seemed surreal. I don't think that I'm insufferable or anything, but I struggle with picturing things like where I'd meet them at, how the first conversations/dates would go and how I'd eventually sell them on comitting to me. When I see others in happy relationships lately. My first thought is: "That's nice. Good for them 😊". My second immediate thought is: "How TF did that even happen? 🤔" I think the working on myself thing is slowly but surely becoming the means AND the ends now. I'm bettering myself just to be better.
