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[#30] Uncensored - We Showered Together

🕑 Added 2023-07-11 19:00:35 +0000 UTC

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Ultraskyler

Hasan uses formative a lot, I’d say qt got it from him

formerdingo88

Mayas take on Jonah Hill was 10/10 I was falling for the trap that he was just setting boundaries but yeah that language is definitely super controlling. I agree with QT on the cheating tier list though bc of someone like Kendrick Lamar who cheated out of an addiction to women that was a coping mechanism, and by his partner showing him compassion he felt courageous enough to go to therapy and be better. So there’s some types of cheating that can be worked through imo.

Arrowni

It'll always surprise me how generous QT is when judging dudes, in that respect I'm more like Maya

Benite Rutaganira

The naked yoga stuff is definitely just porn, but honestly, I'm thankful for the Kevin Leonardo videos. He's a great resource for recently out queer people that don't have supportive family or friends irl, especially queer people of color. With his content, they have someone teaching them very explicit how-tos so they can be safe when exploring their sexuality! Honestly wish I had something like that for queer women when I was coming out and exploring my own cuz all I had was Tumblr posts :')

Buboon

QT comparing relationships to insurance was too damn funny

Happyotter

I'm a Kindergarten teacher and would be one of the first people to buy a childrens book you write Maya!

ClimateKy

ya straight up fuck Jonah Hill... even without any context those texts are ridiculous, controlling, and clearly the result of an insecure man in a hyper misogynistic society. There is no context (even cheating which I think is very unlikely) that makes any of that right, clearly an emotionally psychologically abusive guy.

Mitch Mitcherson

watch Maya’s face when Qt talks about “butthole guy”

Lezzerlee

QT should watch the interviews that Joseph Gordon Levitt does about his own character in 500 Days of Summer. He, himself, the actor of the guy recognizes that he's the bad guy. He projects his desire and issues onto Summer, never respecting her autonomy or place she is in her life. He jumps from girl to girl to fill his void.

ghostwritersrus

I also talk on the phone and take meetings in the shower 🙈 I mostly do it with my close friends or my boss, but I work a pretty big corporate job and there's 100+ of us on the same call every Thursday and myself and some other members of management (including a couple directors) literally call it hair washing day because we all take showers during that call. 🫡 The only rule is that if/when it's your time to speak you better be ready and we better be able to hear you clearly.

bakedLaska

Someone I do not like will flirt with me and I will feel so guilty I will tell my honey immediately. How do people "accidentally" do all the leading up to sex regardless how drunk they are and not think of their partner and feel horrible to stop at any point? :(

Chipz

I think it’s weird she started dating him after he stalked and liked her photos repetitively I feel like that’s a red flag no? And then he’s scared of other men finding her photos and following too

PuffTheDargon

Man its a hard one.. the line on being too gracious and just the benefit of the doubt like.. the court of public opinion is nasty man. whoever speaks first wins a lot of the time and the slow to speak up get rolled and its r eally hard to come back from it. even if he posted tomorrow that she cheated and he was setting boundaries like... too late man damage done public jumped and got your ass.

Ridorana12

1:02:05 the way that was said lol

Jonah Gollata

When it comes to the Jonah hill thing, as a Jonah and someone who was emotionally manipulated by my ex, policing your partner’s social media and friendships is the first step in a slippery slope especially when they start making demands further into the relationship.

Julie Tran

maya listing off that she’s never watched all those movies makes angry birds being her fav movie make a lot of sense

neonmellow

Me either. I had never actually seen it but I am halfway through and have no idea how anybody ever thought that the girl was a villain in this movie.

tilly

naked attraction is a genuine threat to society i am so sick of having a comfy night and then turning to the tv and seeing a line of flaccid penises. week ruined

Ellaabunny

QT where can i buy tickets to your stand up show? I can’t check twitter because i don’t have an account, nor do i want to create one, but elon musk changed the rules and won’t let me look at twitter unless i have an account lol

ntGonzo

GREAT EPISODE, EXCITED FOR QT AND MAYA ON THEIR BOOK AND COMEDY JOURNIES

Kate Keeffe

i really dont think it was internalized misogyny.. in the sense that.. if the roles were reversed i would have the same opinion of... wonder if they cheated. imp, its the wording of hes text. If a man or woman sent that id be like hm... is there more to this story. saying that, sometimes their aint.

Ruben

I'm sad that first they were excited to watch Naked Attraction on Patreon, and then QT talked about a fluffed penis and now I feel it won't happen anymore :(

Jose Marin

Great episode. I think without more context I’m in the same opinion as hasan on the Jonah hill thing. Curious though cus maya mentioned how the woman couldn’t just leave when Jonah said “if you don’t agree just leave” because of codependency etc but at the same time she said Jonah should just leave if he got cheated on? Does it not work both ways? Anyways he’s an insecure man child with controlling issues for sure. Also why release this AFTER he welcomed his child and then say it was so the new woman could make an educated decision? I haven’t watched 500 days of summer in a while, I’ll have to rewatch because I have heard the theory that the guy is the bad guy

Serenalynn927

Maya cant sit with us until she has seen Mean Girls

Kiera Clements

i would love movie nights bc, like maya, i haven't seen most movies either 😬 tho, i HAVE seen mean girls!

Melanie Scanlan

✨🎶wine about it🎶✨

Nemo

I think it's important to note that the original article that coined the term manic pixie dream girl did so as a way to criticize how men write women to be this one dimensional character of quirks they're attracted to and server a purpose of self discovery to the male character and was never meant to be an attack on any actual women who were into late noughties indie/alt/hipster aesthetics, hobbies, music etc...

Erik Ivarsson

Great episode 👏

Chris

absolutely can’t wait for the (500) Days of Summer conversation

ForstHeld

Not even i didnt watched that movie i never ever heard of it

Ellaabunny

the guy is the villain in 500 days of summer!!

Darren Hertenstein

I can't believe Maya hasn't seen Mean Girls. This must be the first move y'all watch on Patreon.

BS

To all of the people saying but it's out of context! What context would those boundaries be appropriate? Unless this was him running a script he was writing by his gf. Seems hard to think of a scenario where more context would make it ok.

Pontus

Great ep. Really funny

Taylor Egg

I think always forgiving people is a Mormon thing. I was raised Mormon too - and forgave a few cheaters I dated in college to keep the relationship going. Probably my self worth being a bit low at that time was a factor too

LegolCZ

Finally, more positive epizode. Thanks ladies.

James Parentich

They are both not great in 500 days of summer but I don't think anyone is the villian.

zxcasfdsaca

Its so funny to me that of all people Maya is so quick to judge someone based on some out of context screenshot posted on twitter. Anyway interesting episode

polite

Boundaries are what you set for yourself, not others! I really needed this week's episode and the little tidbit about feeling bad (or rather, shouldn't be feeling bad) about something bad happening to another person as a direct cause-and-effect of their actions is something I needed an external reminder about. :) peepopogwow

LokeyLB

I'm like Maya & haven't seen most movies that the general population has seen including the ones mentioned so you're not alone! Just not a movie guy

Alildore

maya looking around after the naked attraction portion is so fucking funny

Devyn

maya, i hope you are able to make that insect book or something like it for kids. My 4 year old son and 3 year old niece are both terrified of bugs no matter what we tell them or how we try to help so a kids book would be a great thing for us<3

Zay

Good and productive episode. I learned that there are healthy and unhealthy boundaries, how to wax my hind parts with nair, and that we all come in different shapes and sizes. Very nice.

77katz77

With the kind of roles I've seen him in, there's no way that hasn't had an effect on Jonah Hill.

Josh Push

Happy positivity Tuesday 🥳

Felipe Boubee

Absolutely loved this episode

HeyBroItsBrad

PLEASE watch naked attraction. CONTENT

TheAlan614

My 1st watch off 500 Days was zooey's character was the villain but after coming back to it after a few years I think both characters have their flaws

AJ Witt

tbh my shower time is my quiet and peace away from technology and other people, I didn't even like to shower w my ex gf because its my own personal time.

kron

I don't know if there really is a "villain" in 500 Days of Summer. I think Joseph Gordon Levitt's character just isn't as emotionally developed as Zooey Deschanel's character. You don't get inside her brain like you do his so naturally you're going to sympathize with him more. But neither character did anything wrong in the tiktok drama pick a side type of way. A key scene in the movie is when they watch the Graduate (which parallels 500 days of summer in so many ways) and she sees how he isn't moved by it at all and clearly doesn't understand how depressing and sad the ending is.

Phil Hatch II

Great episode. Excited for a monthly movie episode.

lavendermissed

whenever i facetime with my two best friends one of them will literally point her phone at the shower so she can continue talking and doesn't feel left out. it's crazy but at the same time totally normal i think for girlfriends

xoxo_gems

That’s why YouTube hasn’t taken it or any of his other videos down because it’s marketed as educational

Moopes

I might be wrong, but to me it seems equally as wierd to say we don't know the context, maybe someone cheated maybe they didn't, so famous dude is probably an asshole. Posting texts publicly in this situation also seems a bit manipulative to me. What do you guys think?

Michael Kiwan

I’m excited for QT to start stand up I think it’s a good fit for her

seashell

the phone in the shower thing is probably normal for women, my sister would do that, but a lot of guys would find it weird i think and idk why that is. the only time a guy is thinking about talking to someone in the shower, it's a woman they're interested in

NallM012

Ok I love you both (non-parasocially I promise). Your podcast has always been my favorite... and you are at your best when you are just being real and unfiltered. Your podcast last week (both the regular one and the bonus epi) were among my favorite. So fwiw, you may have hated it, but your viewers love it. I hope that means something. <3. Ok gonna watch this episode now.

Tfries_

great episode :)

N.N.

Maybe the take-away should be that you should not assume to know anything, really, about someone you see online and just "know" from reading a tweet or a screenshot. I am surprised Maya is so willing to seemingly judge based on just twitter threads.

Crissy

Dis was very funny but I do feel like qt is hyping up 500 days of summer more than she should lol

Winn

I know everyone is memeing about that nair video (and it is funny) but I genuinely thought it was educational. Shocking but helpful lol

Winn

Oh god, that is rough 🙁

Jose

OK mean girls watch ep haaaaas to happen

Lindsey

Looks like I gotta figure out where to watch 500 Days of Summer…👀

Chase

honestly this was one of my faves

Pnwoah

About the Jonah hill thing, I've known some people who want to leave their relationships and to not be "the bad guy" set unrealistic boundaries or just behave distant till the other person has no other option but to leave. So idk could be that too

Hope Palmer

I would love a monthly movie night on the Patreon! I also haven’t seen a ton of “culturally formative” movies and need a Qt lesson

Seth Hastings

The couch is a classic, particularly for kids who were raised with negative sex ed, IE active suppression of any discussion around sex, genitalia, etc. I had a friend who's first time masturbating was in basic training in the army. His squad found out he had never done it (and didn't know anything about it) and forced him to do it in front of them. Talk about traumatizing

VancityRen

I love the new "bugs attack QT" weekly segment! Great guests so far. Rip june bug from last week...o7

mgnnn

butthole attraction???!?!

xoxo_gems

I think you are definitely looking at it from a misogynistic POV. The stuff he listed as his “boundaries” is just him trying to control her. She’s a surfer & he knew that when entering into the relationship. Even if she did cheat, which she most likely didn’t, it still doesn’t give him the right to blow up on her like that. There’s also no justification for a cheater. If you’ve ever been cheated on, it’s never your fault, it’s always the cheater’s fault.

Alexander Tucker

Holy😭 I’m a creator and Kevin is my friend I still cannot believe he did that. The conversation starter I had of “ DID YOU SPREAD YOUR CHEEKS BRO?? FOR THE INTERNET? “