Thoughts on Chastity Part 1: Chastity and Rewards

Michael

I get those full body convulsions or bodygasim or whatever the correct name for them are. They are awesome! I've had them a handful of times in the past. I now get them frequently with Ms. Alder at least once, usually move than that every file. I even had a very intense one the other day at the mir thought of Ms. Alder beginning to speak. I could barely push the play button 😜

Michael

The only analogy I can think of is when you hungry and craving and then allowed to eat you get full and are no longer hungry (horny). If you "eat" a lot all the time as I tend to do you get sexually "fat" and even though you still enjoy food, if you would deny yourself and better yet have that denial mentally linked to your dominant (Ms Alder) so that you give her control and she keeps you sexually "hungry" most of the time, then when she feeds you, you enjoy it more you appreciate it more, you are grateful to her for the release she gives you and her control and link to what orgasms she allows you to have with her. Her control grow your adoration of her grows which after all is what we all want. I know it works for me when I can keep up the discipline.

Oh, I am not like Lucidair. I would love to learn about creative chastity. I always loved the episode of Seinfeld when George gave up sex.

Aurelia Alder

Making my work compatible with ongoing real time relationships is always a priority.

Aurelia Alder

Self regulating rewards for being chaste is what I am thinking of, yes. Something that will make the habit an intensification of arousal where your own body becomes captivating and the pleasure grows undeniable. reward feedback loops encourage you to really get into it and make chaste existence an ongoing part of your life. Same idea I think

SoVeryBlissful

I admit that from time to time (every few months), it's healthy to empty the prostate. Well, usually my body will find its own way in dreams. As I personally prefer to cum in a face-to-face encounter, I usually try to escape my dreams when I feel that they could lead to an orgasm. Most of the time, I am successful in cancelling them. Regarding your personal presence in our lives. I don't think that such a thing is necessary. I don't think that "giving exact rules that much all situations" is even possible. Moreover, most of the time when I would ask about release, I very well know what feels right. I would never want to trouble you or any other Mistress with asking her about things where I already know the answer. Personally, I listened to a number of chastity files. The aspects telling me what I can do or cannot do never fitted exactly. It feels as if I don't even need these parts. The spirit of some files was something, my mind craved to adapt. The actual results show it very, very well. I love to be in chastity. For me, it's a very rewarding state. I feel perfectly conditioned. What I would love to see, are files that further reward me with good feelings for being chaste.

I would like a path for those that are in long-term relationships, so that chastity strengthens rapport with you and with real-world partnership. Abnegation as a path toward what you call "a more general arousal", an after-glow effect without manual stimulation.

SoVeryBlissful

My personal perspective about chastity comes from the tantric as well as the BDSM point of view. For me, it's the greatest fulfillment to feel me respond enthusiastically to the women I worship. Having saved all this sexual energy, I feel very connected to them and showing them my desire and my connection is far more satisfying than release. Regarding my own pleasure: I have to contradict (I am sorry). Cumming hard has been some aspect in the past, but I don't think about it any more. It doesn't play any major role any more (at least most of the time). Instead, the state of chastity itself is pure ecstasy. I am so responsive and have so much sexual energy. When stimulated, I can feel intense pleasure in my whole body. Even without ejaculation, these waves of pleasure (they form an orgasm in a tantric sense; the tantric definition of orgasm as free flow of energy is very, very general) can be much more intense than a classical orgasm. I experience so much pleasure in your files. It's not even tease and denial any more. It's simply a wonderful state.