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The Truth About Sex!
🕑 Added 2023-10-21 15:21:56 +0000 UTCI saw a post of a woman saying that she and her husband made an agreement to not let more than 48 hours go by without having sex because they see couples lose their connection and then get a divorce.
Here’s what I learned in 16 years of marriage.
1. Sex IS NOT a priority, it’s a plus at best.
2. After you fall in love with someone, sex pales in comparison to conversation and quality time.
3. If sex is what holds your marriage together, you’re doomed to fail.
4. Life happens and kids are the priority when they are involved because they are dependents. Adults should be independent and also interdependent.
Ex: I worked until 3am, and then had to be up 6:45a for our sons cross country meet. I’m not going to wake my wife up for sex, nor do I feel like having sex. But getting up after only 4 hours of sleep for my son is my priority and my joy. Now I’m on break, ministering in this post before our other sons soccer game. My ministry and my family is my priority, not sex, and I’m extremely happy, blessed, and at peace. No lie.
5. Sex is to fulfill lust. It’s not “making love.” Love is made in conversation and quality time.
6. One day, one party won’t be able to have sex due to age, health, or something else. What will your relationship stand on then?
7. Sex is for an orgasm. It’s a spiritual tie, but it does not build or strengthen true love. If it did, everyone would marry and love-for-life the first person they started having consistent sex with.
8. Sex is overrated once you understand all you’re chasing is a physical high that can be found in a myriad of ways. It’s futile and meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
9. One of the reasons we have become so far removed from God as a society is because we have made sex an idol, and we put it over almost everything.
10. You will have more peace, happiness, love, and joy when you stop giving sex/orgasms so much power in your life and you start to understand the true meaning of sex.
Read this 3-5 more times. I hope it helps.
Be blessed!
Comments
So in a nutshell, your relationship/marriage can be built on either sex (straw) or spirit + intimacy (bricks). Spirit + intimacy has nothing to do with sex, although sex usually comes into play (following, not leading). Leading with (and obsessing with) sex destroys relationships. A great book written on this topic is Sobonfu Some’s Spirit of Intimacy (minus the 13th chapter).
Amen
