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Grandma update 😟🖤
🕑 Added 2025-08-12 00:13:55 +0000 UTCHi patronites! Wishing you all a gentle week ahead 🥰
I went back and forth all weekend about whether to share this, but so many of you were rooting for my granny that it feels right to let you know how her story ended and to thank you for being here with me through it. So yes, here's another very personal post. Starting with this video, that looking at now... It feels almost poetic 🖤
Like I've told you, on June 27th, my grandmother had a severe stroke. On July 15th, I told you she was still fighting, fragile but stubborn, and so many of you sent love and warm wishes for her recovery. I truly felt your kindness across the distance.
This past Friday, August 8th, she finally let go. I was working when it happened, and it was so disorienting…
One day she still felt like herself, the next she needed help with everything. And we could see, quietly and stubbornly, that she was slipping away. That’s hard enough to watch. But what broke me was seeing my mom slowly lose herself in the process, giving up her routine, her rest, her joy, until she was completely worn out. The little light she had been holding on to ever since losing Duda… it flickered.
Now that she’s gone, my heart feels two things at the same time: the grief of losing her and the relief that her suffering and my family’s is finally over.
These past weeks have been heavy in ways I can’t really put into words. I spent so many days at the hospital and at home, changing her, giving her meds, turning her in bed, feeding her through a tube, standing for hours trying to understand words that barely made sense. On top of that came the financial hit, the collapse of routines… anything I could do to make my mom’s life a little easier, I did. It was messy, it was human, and it was far from easy 😅
I usually like to keep this space light. But since so many of you were cheering for her, it felt right to close the chapter here and to thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for caring. And as a little tribute, I’m sharing this photo of us together 🤗
So, after a month and a half of living in that in-between, hoping for a miracle and fearing the inevitable, I feel I can finally breathe. My grandma is at peace 🖤 And my mom can start to heal from everything she’s been through. Grief isn’t easy to deal with, and now my mom has to face it twice. And me… well, my grief list keeps growing. These last five years have been exceptionally difficult.
Life is fragile. Love is sacred.
You’ll have time to catch up with work tomorrow. But you won’t always have time to spend with your loved ones. “Now” is truly the only thing we have that is real. The past cannot be changed, and the future is yet to come.
But well, before I forget to tell you something else 😅 (because of course my life loves a plot twist), last Tuesday at my skating class I somehow performed a full split… but not in a good way. I wasn’t ready for it, so I pulled my groin (yep… adductor strain 😅) and spent the whole week in pain and limping. I even shot 2 June sets while hobbling around, so please laugh with me when you see my BTS faces 😂 "Occupational hazard", I guess. I was a little reckless and didn’t think about the speed and extra momentum before trying to perform the split… lesson learned. Here’s hoping I at least unlocked a REAL FULL split for the next attempts when I’m healed 🫠
That's it for today, I swear the next posts will be lighter 😭
Comments
Ricardo Barrig
I'm sorry for your loss, Dani.
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It is incredible how fast life passes by us, I had no words when I read this and I feel like there are no words to capture the amount of love and condolences I am sending your way. Stay strong Dani, I know it is hard but she shined beautifully and you are keeping that shine alive. Take your time and don't push yourself.
Fue_XG
My heart sank when I saw the sad emoji. Words are never enough to express, and I am very sorry about your grandmother. My deepest condolences, Danielle.🌹 You know me, I’m not the best at handling loved one’s passing, but I would like to share my thoughts when I read your post and what little memory I remember of your grandmother. Your grandmother was definitely one of the ones who played a key role in your cosplaying career as I remember you shared with us that she was the one who taught you how to sew. I always found that warming, and I know a part of her will continue to live on with you because of this. We’ll miss her. Thank you for taking the time to share with us all. I’ll be thinking about you and your family, especially your mother, on this journey of healing.
Jon Phelps
I'm so sorry for your loss. That's a great photo of you with your grandmother. I'll continue to send prayers your way
Eriol T. Harlaown
I know that these days, words as common as "my condolences" reign supreme. But I prefer to keep your photo with her, the two of you so beautiful. That photo shows that your grandmother will always be with you, by your side. My best regards, Danielle ❤︎
David Morales Sanchez
En esta vida lo más hermoso de todo son los recuerdos los bellos momentos el compartir esto tan íntimo de tu vida te hace ser más valiosa como persona y como mujer, es natural que tú mami haya pasado todo ese dolor pero como familia es algo que también suele apreciarse con el tiempo solo mucha fuerza y luz para ti familia una cálido abrazo a tu mami y para ti mucha fortaleza y que sigas teniendo esa calidez en tu persona
Miles
“But what broke me was seeing my mom slowly lose herself in the process, giving up her routine, her rest, her joy, until she was completely worn out. The little light she had been holding on to ever since losing Duda” It’s cause it was her mom, so she had that feeling of “being an orphan” now (my mom had that phase when her mom passed, and a client just did also when her mom did) “the relief that her suffering and my family’s is finally over.” That’s the feeling to latch onto. No more extra stress or breaking down or ppl forcing ya to do stuff “hoping for a miracle and fearing the inevitable, I feel I can finally breathe. My grandma is at peace 🖤” This is the feeling also to latch onto, finally that is picture perfect progress, “You’ll have time to catch up with work tomorrow” Wonder if this one will stick? 8D I have my doubts (cmon have to be silly a bit :p ) “Now” is truly the only thing we have that is real. “ another mark of progress 🥹🙏 “so I pulled my groin (yep… adductor strain 😅) and spent the whole week in pain and limping.” OOF 😟, it’s probably a mixture of still physical conditioning with the new skates and Vedo overextend or overassume the hit But what do we do when we fall? We learn to pick ourselves up, the zenkai boost will kick in, always has always does, today’s tone in the text is more proof of that 🥹
Edrei Moncada
I'm sending you all my well wishes for you and your family, it's never easy and we're never fully ready for these things. I think you're managing brilliantly with the fixed feelings of grief and relief. Again, it's never easy but in a way there's beauty in carrying all the memories you shared with your loved ones and keeping them alive withing you every time you remember them. Thank you for this update, take your own time with things, manage your process in the best way you see fit for yourself, you deserve to deal with this as a human an not a work machine. Sending you lots of love for you and your family Queen 🖤
Victor
Dani, I have no doubt in my mind you were a wonderful granddaughter and should hold no regrets. You cherished the time you had with your grandmother and did absolutely everything you could to make her feel comfortable and loved. I believe she is is somewhere looking over you with great pride in the woman she helped raise. Her lasting memory will continue to shape the person you are. About your injury, I hope your recovery goes smoothly and quickly. Take care and always remember how much you mean to your family, friends and followers. 🙏
Rocco
Sentimento dani
HitsuBT
Aww rest in peace to Granny V. (The photo is adorable, what a wonderful memory to have). Very sorry to hear this after y'all were on a bit of an upward hill. I know this time can be a bit confusing too seeing as how you're trying to figure out how to deal with this one. I think it's okay to not be really too keen on what you feel for it now though. Losing family is tough, it never is easy no matter how prepared you all are. I am glad that she is not suffering now and sounds like she fought her way right on out the door (I'd be an absolute mess if I was in her shoes so mad respect to her for that). Sending some love and prayers for you guys though for real. On the flip side, sad also sad to hear y'all managed to hit some damage for your skating but I think that is part of the process. Just don't overwork yourself to get back to it Dx! All things will come in good time :D! Remember you mean a lot to your community so do not be afraid to kick back a bit and take it easy. Always sending you guys all the energy we can muster. There's quite a few of us with our hands in the air sending some spirit bomb energy to keep y'all going. One love for y'all down there. Stay strong (just like your Gran)!
stilettopimp
U know THIS space is a safe space for you to pour out your grieving, sadness AND most of all the treasured memories. LOsing family members takes a piece from you, it IS painful, and it is something you cannot do by yourself. Please now we are here to help u thru this. <3
Bennie Thurmond III
My condolences Dani. May she rest peacefully knowing her granddaughter is a ball of love and talent blessing the world each and every day. Always here if you need me, buddy. ❤️💗
Danielle Vedovelli
Thank you Dany 😔 I was on my way to send out the remaining prints 🥲 But they will be sent tomorrow, I promise ❤️
dany ducharme
All my condolences 💐 for your grandma 🫶🫶🫶🫶
