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Girl Mode and Sissy Addiction Psychology
🕑 Added 2017-12-29 13:59:19 +0000 UTC I was shown a personal email from a sissy and I got very touched by it and wanted to share some of my thoughts around how I view what in the world we do that are healthy and unhealthy.GIRL MODE
During the program, I will introduce the idea of "Girl mode". The idea is that you will have a set of instructions, all depending on how far in your sissification you have come, to follow when it is "girl mode" time.
As you hopefully will experience during the program is that your girl mode time will feel better and better. Both because it will contain more things, but also because you will be asked to do pleasurable things.
You might get conditioned to listen to a girly song while in girl mode, and that tune will start to feel good in you. You will begin to long for that experience, and to increase the fullness of it. Of course, to be able to get into girl mode it is really important that you are safe. That you at the start have complete privacy. Because it is then that you can embrace the spirit and explore that side of you.
SISSY PSYCHOLOGY
There are sissies that have gone through periods of trying to stop their sissification as if it was an addiction. Anything in life can be a drug and cause addiction. Addiction is when a person uses some distraction to deal with their emotions instead of dealing with them.
For some, this is going to the gym. For some it is drinking, for some, it is food, to others that means sex or binge-watching Netflix series. All these behaviors are done by healthy happy people all the time without any issue. So what makes going to the gym bad and an addiction and what makes it something healthy and good?
The difference lies in WHY the person does it.
If I invariably would go to the gym because I am not happy with the relationship with my partner. Then that is not a good way to deal with my life since the underlying cause needs to change the stress and pain to go away.
So is sex, kinks, BDSM or sissification an escape or a sensual exploration? You is it also depends on the WHY. The majority in the BDSM communities do it in a healthy, engaging, life fulfilling way. There are some that do it because of something they cannot handle in life. Sissification, which the way I see it, is a part exploring BDSM, a part exploring femininity, a bit exploring sexuality. This is for the majority a healthy and relevant part of their sexual growth.
We live in a society that lacks acceptance for anything not conforming. That is what causes this fear-based shame culture. People go around not feeling that they are enough, not feeling they are worthy of belonging to the community they live in, or the groups that they hang out with. They go around not daring to reach out and receive love. Lack of love drives them to desperation. The desperation of love in males tends to be violence and in women apathy and depression. Desperation is unhealthy, and a culture that promotes that kind of behaviour and thinking that leads to it is unhealthy but not the people stuck or unaware inside the culture.
However what you think is KEY here. Those that think they are worthy will be able to reach out and show vulnerability. That vulnerability will connect them to what is human and increase the feeling of worthiness, knowing we are all imperfect and beauty lies in our uniqueness and differences.
Sissies playfully and courageously embrace their vulnerability. While humiliation and degradation take a part of that exploration, beneath that kinky surface there is always this beautiful soul that explores their inner world. It might be how it feels to be in certain situations, power dynamics, emotions, expressions or roles - both physically and socially. The feminine role contains so much, and exploring it gives a lot of good. At the Academy, we do push the envelope a lot and go super extreme. However, we do so know it is an extreme expression for those that are limited by their culture to experiment freely without judgment.
While I do know sissies love extreme feminization, I would not expect even a full-time sissy to walk to the grocery store in a locked-on pink super frilly maid outfit every day. Nevertheless, exploration, imagination, hope, play, and dreams are so critical to the well being of the soul and heart.
So my advice is. Stay truthful. Going to the gym might be avoidance and unhealthy, but it might also be healthy. It is not an either or. It is about finding the parts that are less healthy and making them more healthy. Then you can let the healthy parts grow, embrace them even more, and live even more fully. Love that you have an imaginative, unusual creative mind. Uniqueness is valuable, and it is an aspect that our society is inevitably going to desire more and more in the future. Embrace all your desires, and seek out any parts of life that you might be avoiding.
If you think sissification is your addiction then the only thing that is sure is that you are very much simplifying something that very complex. Making complex issues simple will just make them worse. There are so many nuances. There is not a good and a bad color. Instead, all the millions of nuances of colors are all beautiful on their own all, depending on how they are put together, why and depending on who is watching.
The gym is not good or bad, nor are anything really. It is more or less only in the specific situation together with surrounding social connections and the individual experiences that the definition of healthy or unhealthy behaviors can exist.
Moral of the story?
Love yourself and embrace your sissification to the maximum <3
Trainer Frida
