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How weird are your sissy sexuality and other kinks?
🕑 Added 2022-04-13 10:58:15 +0000 UTCSexuality might be weird to say in itself but instead, let us start to ask...
What turns you on?
Is that easy to answer if someone were to ask you about it?
Do you have a list of kinks perhaps? Chastity Cages, forced feminization, forced-bi, humiliation…?
Or do sexy hot dominant women turn you on?
What about men, cocks, or being forced to serve men?
Sum that up and we get your sexuality maybe?
Attraction is partly built into us. We see beauty in many different things, and attraction likewise.
If you are attracted to women with hot curves or big boobs and happen to be considered a “Male” of sorts then can we not just as well say you are straight?
Well.. maybe… but maybe it is not that simple.
Would you say you are attracted to hands because they give you pleasure down there when you masturbate? Or are we maybe not that “direct” in our sense of sexuality.
That feeling that sparks when you see or read about something. Whatever it is, there is an association taking place.
You can see a chastity cage for example. In you that might be connected to submission by a dominant woman, losing control of your sexuality, being incredibly horny, humiliation as a “man”, or maybe the contradicting desire of the idea of having your pleasure taken away.
Maybe it is not the chastity cage itself that turns you on, but the idea of it.
Looking at a woman's butt or boobs, might actually, visually, turn you on directly. Then you are sort of attracted to the gynoid body type.
Yet the concept of what a woman is, that is unique to your upbringing but it was seeded by your biology. Your brain knows how to look around and see others as boys and girls as you grow up and then into men and women as you get your sexuality turned on.
There are cultures where what is feminine, attractive, desirable and hot is very different.
Attraction is sort of the seed planted in your brain, the cultural you grow up in is the soil and from this mix your passion for sex grows into a complex tree with many branches. Some branches can seem very far from the roots.
Can you look at a woman’s boobs, be sexually attracted, and still not find it your biggest interest to go fuck her? Yea, just like you can look at a chastity cage and not want to go up and fuck it.
That desire, that longing, that sexual need in you that is sparked whenever you experience what turns you on, that I would say is your sexuality.
Kinks as I see them are ways to achieve that or associations that are so strong and intimately linked to your sexuality.
So what if you feel normal in the sense you are seen by others as a male but you are turned on by the thought of being a sissy, forced feminization, sucking cocks or having sex with men in a woman’s body.
You consider yourself straight.
Yet this seems like the dictionary definition of gayness? I don’t like that term but I know it is common so we are going with it straight on.
If you are not gay, then maybe you are BI? You like a little of both in a sense?
But… Do you? Do you look at men and find them hot or are men more a symbol of that set of kinks included in your sissification desires?
Do women look at men and find them hot, just like men look at women and see them as sexy?
Not really in that sense. Do women go online and google cocks like men go and google boobs? No? Why?
Because I would argue that feminine attraction has larger aspects to it that are non-visual and instead might seem to be more about social status, skill, ability to protect, and care.
Hence the male picture is not as interesting as the man behind it.
A women’s sexuality profile is more about the story around, the fantasy, the idea of what can happen.
Here is where the waters become shallow since men do this too, just generally a bit less.
However, if you are attracted to men only in the sense of the visual, and want sex with them regardless of other sexual kinks, then we could call you BI, or gay if you don’t find any desire to have sex with a woman in addition.
Yet maybe you are turned on by the idea of being a woman, and then having sex with men turns you on a lot.
The sissification sexuality and the kinks around it do not need to include or exclude that core gendered attraction that we tend to label as straight or not.
Imagine by happenstance your brain is like a perfectly normal straight cis woman in terms of its sexuality, then you would see yourself as a woman wanting to have sex with men. Not a man having sex with other men.
So maybe your sexuality was repressed because you physically are not what your brain tells you a woman is, hence your sexuality to have sex with men as a woman is also repressed (since it is impossible). Yet in your dreams and desires, your sexual explorations, you one day find sissificaiton.
Maybe that would be a match made in heaven.
Consider if, like most women are, you are submissive in your sexuality and personality as well.
Now that sissification kink that is all about being beta, humiliated becomes even so much more of a match.
Then that becomes your core sexuality.
For a bit until you realize you actually want to live as a woman. You realize that you were a transwoman, and then you get on hormones. Your sexuality changes and all of a sudden the desire for sissification goes away and your kink and sex list look like any other woman would.
Possibly a bit more filled with kinks since you had a few things to go through, you are still submissive and have those fantasies.
On the other hand, we might find a submissive man that has had his submissive sexuality repressed and is turned on by humiliation. Then maybe we can see being a female is something humiliating and hence he considers crossdressing a kink. Yet how can you know he is just not in denial like the majority of sissies?
Either way, the key is to allow yourself to explore.
Mindgames like we do in the Academy, where you get to imagine yourself as a girl, not just for humiliation, that is hopefully what makes you eventually get the brilliant insight.
That you like feminization regardless of its humiliation and submission aspect. Those are just icing on the cake. And the icing is cum and soon it might be hormones.
Love to you sweetie.
In a future article, I’ll discuss the desire for feminine things as if you had a feminine mindset. Maybe you like makeup, playing with dolls as a kid, or certain typical feminine activities. What does that have to do with your sexuality, gender, and sissification adventures?
Next time I’ll dive into more about the gender stuff itself. How it feels to be you and who you want others to see you as. Are you Trans? Crossdresser? Just kinky?
