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International Ace Day - Full Resolution
🕑 Added 2021-04-08 17:19:44 +0000 UTCHowdy, y'all! Aaaa I missed posting on the actual day, but Belated Happy International Asexuality Day from your local sex-favorable demisexual cowboy!
A fellow ace friend suggested that it might be nice for me to speak up about being on the ace spectrum, since there seems to be a common misconception that ace folks aren't interested in sex. It's not true! A good number of us love sex, we just find it appealing for different reasons than "saw hot body". (I myself love kink, and indulge in a philia!)
I wish people would focus more on the perks of being asexual. Personally, being ace allows me to enjoy a casual relationship with sex, and a sex life that includes trusted friends and the occasional pro in addition to sex with my wife, who reaps the benefits of my experiments & experience. (I also reap the benefits from her own experiments, so it's win-win!)
Being ace is a joy.
Nobody should tell anybody else how they should enjoy sex, or even that they should pursue having it at all. You certainly don't need sex to have beautiful & fulfilling relationships- I have had relationships that have stopped just short of the bedroom and still left me and my chosen partners with a great deal of wonderful memories that linger.
That said, there are endless ways to express intimacy and love. We are worthy of pursuit, regardless of how we feel about sex. We tend to be wholeheartedly loyal to the people we choose to share our lives with. And we make damn fine partners, because we spread the passion we otherwise may have expressed in bed out onto our entire lives, with phenomenal results.
I wish the allosexual (non-ace) community would recognize that more often.
And if you yourself are asexual, then just remember: you are not broken, and you do not have to settle. You are beautiful, and you are worthy of love, acceptance, and/or meaningful relationships, regardless of how you identify with sex.
Be strong, be proud, and be yourself! <3
