Patreon, R&P Q&A #26: Week 50

13 years ago i meet my ex on internet and she came to live with me from mexico she stayed for 6 months as it didnt work out her behavior i found nothing unusual and if she shit tested me i just said act with respect with me or you can fuck off back to the third world. I even said i would wife her up for immigration purposes so she could live here UK. She said thanks but no thanks. I was still friends with her for many years and i used to spend a month in mexico as friends yes i payed for a lot of stuff while there but her family took me all over mexico with them it worked out a sweet deal to be honest and i dont regret knowing them. Then three years ago my cousin who worked with me at the time said he was going to mexico i said why he said i will stay with the ex i thought cool. He then came back from holidays and said he was going out with my ex. I warned him that she is very unstable and came from a broken home. He ignored me and brought her to him where they lived together for 6 months where she had 5 melt downs and i warned him again this is the rest of your life. They got married and mexico and came here to live. She got pregnant soon after and had a kid with him. during her time being married i seen her three times only when we had mutual friends from mexico visit. then one day may two years ago she phoned me out of the blue and say my cousin is abusing her. I immediately went to my cousins family to speak with them she had lost the plot became addicted to tramadol after prgnancy and threatened to kill herself her child and my cousing she regularly put a knife to his throat. Thing is it blew my mind she could be so crazy it turn out she beat him up on the honeymoon and had abused him ever since. I though it was new behavior but she unmercilessly bullied her sister since childhood. Then i heard rollo talk about his siter in law being a cunt and his brother in law killing himself. Can woman hide there psycho personality so long if you refuse to take there shit? I really has been a head pickler for me?

What’s the best way to go about fulfilling a woman’s emotional turmoil needs? I’m fairly stable and stoic to a degree, but I can come off as fairly boring as well. The times I’ve been able to stoke my wife’s emotions, especially negative or fear of me leaving, have been mostly by accident. I think Rian has referred to this as “manufactured indignation”. Is there a book on this or that covers it well? I’m sure there is a Rollo post as well. Short field report... The other day I was changing after working out and my wife happened to be near me. I took my shirt off and she looked at me and said, “I hate you” to which I replied “For what?” and she responded gesturing to how I looked. She then said I’ve been getting shredded while she has been gaining weight. I just played it off in a cocky funny way by stating if she preferred if I would just drink beer each evening instead to which she said no. She even said at one point that it was intimidating. She’s been off her diet for a couple weeks now and I can tell she’s packed on some weight. My plan is to continue with my training and shift to a more strict cut. My strength has been building up over months of training and losing some more body fat seems like the path of least resistance right now. Plus, I would like to see if I can intentionally get it down to the 10% or single digits level. It’s nice to hear that she noticed and it seems to be a bit of a jolt to her. It just makes me want to go go harder with the diet and training.