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🕑 Added 2023-10-10 02:58:05 +0000 UTC

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MissyAnn602

Intermittent reinforcement 😉 you’re so right about the way you described the loops!!

Tyler

I think there’s a fine line between driven and egotistical, when being driven feeds into a caricature of “being a bitch” and you cave into a rigid thought pattern that that’s who you are, it becomes toxic. When women, or anyone for that matter, are in a position of power it should be balanced with grace and understanding. Long story short I like women that can handle power with emotional intelligence lol

Chris Reyes

I haven’t read the book but the word “bitch” has a negative connotation in this context. What do we mean when we say “men love bitches”. I think it’s true men are attracted to a confident woman that knows what she wants. I don’t know if I would call that being a bitch. I would probably call someone that’s rude, inconsiderate of others time, feelings, boundaries, personal space etc as not an ideal person to date. I might call them toxic and maybe a bitch. I still might be attracted to the woman I just described. When I think of why men love bitches. The term “hot and cold” comes to mind. It’s like why do women love assholes/dicks? What are we saying? I think in both cases these people are inconsistent with their affections. There’s a reward loop that comes with. “They were slow in giving me attention—>being very attentive,sweet affectionate—> pulling back, being cold, opposite of affectionate—>we try to do things to get back to more of step 2, “Please love me again”—> we feel rewarded when we do something that gets the affection back—> they’re being cold again. And the loop continues. I think being a psych major the focus should be on the individuals upbringing. What’s the sub conscious thing happening here that’s placing us in these unhealthy loops. In summary I think when we call someone an asshole or a bitch in terms of dating it is most likely tied to this unhealthy loop.