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🕑 Added 2023-04-01 03:08:01 +0000 UTC Femdom - What It Is and a Brief History of the PracticeWhat is femdom?
Femdom, or *female domination*, refers to BDSM activities where a femme- presenting dominant runs the scene. By glorifying the feminine, femdom puts women in positions of power and establishes a space to lift them up and worship them. *Scenes* (BDSM roleplay) are focused on the domme's desires and pleasure. Her domination of the submissive partner may be physical &/ psychological and can include any number of kinks. The submissive partner (or sub, for short) may also be required to perform non-sexual services such as domestic duties, running errands, chauffeuring the domme, or giving pedicures and massages.
The domme enjoys thrilling power exchanges, the excitement of having a willing and obedient partner, and the deep satisfaction that comes from being able to order, tease, and control their sub in multiple areas of their life. The submissive enjoys female sexual power and takes pride in pleasing their dominant, often experiencing relief from expected authority and freedom from having to make decisions.
A professional female dominant is called a *dominatrix*. She may identify herself with multiple honorifics, including *Mistress, Maitresse, Madame, Domina, Domme, Lady, Princess, Queen,* or *Goddess*. Many dominatrices take pride in their psychological insight into their sub's fetishes and desires, as well as having the technical skills to safely perform complex BDSM practices. Pro dommes *are not escorts*, despite the sensual and erotic interactions they have. Pro dommes do not have sex with their submissives. Most do not allow their subs to touch them in any capacity or even get partially nude in front of them.
When seeking the services of a dominatrix, a smart submissive does their research. They may factor aesthetics into their selection, but they also look to see if the domme provides the types of kinks they want. The sub finds the domme's preferred method of contact and follows her protocol for reaching out. Some dommes have a premade form and usually charge a small fee for discussing the sub's kinks, limits, and fleshing out how an ideal scene would look like for them. This is called *scene negotiation* and is a vital part of establishing trust between domme and sub.
A *session* (BDSM roleplay appointment) may be done in a brick and mortar *dungeon* (professional BDSM play space) or online. Online sessions can be done via live video call or other methods (direct messages, Snapchat, etc). Many dommes require a deposit to hold a session time which is later applied towards the session fee. It is considered common courtesy to bring a gift for the domme to the session. Gifts are *not* given as part of the session fee, but as a separate token of the sub's appreciation and goodwill towards the domme. If your domina does not have a wishlist posted with her contact methods, it is okay to ask what she would like. A generous tip is always a welcomed gift as well.
After the session, a responsible domme will offer some form of aftercare, which is usually discussed during the negotiation stage. This could take the form of administering any necessary first aid, a light snack & a chat about the session, or the dominant may simply check in with the submissive to ensure they are in a healthy headspace after intense scenes.
A Brief History of FemDom
FemDom as a practice is about as old as humans and sex work!
*4000-3100 B.C.E* - Temple rituals of the goddess Inanna (Ishtar in Akkadian) in ancient Mesopotamia included cross-dressing and were infused "with pain, ecstasy, bringing journeys of altered consciousness, punishment, moaning, lamenting and song". Cuneiform texts consisting of the "Hymns to Inanna" are often cited as examples of the archetype of the powerful, sexual female displaying dominating behaviors, and coercing gods and men into submission to her.
*490 B.C.E.* - The Etruscan Tomb of the Wh_pp_ng is thought to have been dedicated to Dionysus (the Greco-Roman God of wine, festivity, ritual madness, and religious ecstasy) has a fresco (see pic A) of a male/female/male flagellation scene involving a "riding crop" in what appears to be an upright standing spit roast position.
*400 B.C.E. - 200 A.D.* - Indian philosopher Vatsyayana is credited with having written the *Kama Sutra* - or *Teachings of Desire* - in Sanskrit. Among other things, it describes six appropriate places to strike a person with passion, and four ways to do so. The ancient texts also contain chapters on "Scratching", "Biting", and "Reversing Roles".
*1st c. C.E.* - Neronian Era (54-68 C.E.) Roman courtier Gaius Petronius Arbiter writes his novel *Satyricon*, a curious mix of cynical, parodic satire and idealized Greek romance. In it, a delinquent is wh_pped for sexual arousal.
*1220 C.E.* - French work *Le Lai d'Aristote* (*The Lay of Aristotle*) appears in manuscripts and is attributed to either Henri d’Andeli or Henri de Valenciennes. Known also as the tale of Phyllis and Aristotle, it is a medieval cautionary tale about a seductive woman, Phyllis, and Greek philosopher Aristotle. As the story goes, Aristotle lectures Alexander about neglecting state duties for his mistress (whom Aristotle is also hot for). Phyllis overhears this and decides to get revenge on the philosopher. When Aristotle later propositions her, she insists on riding him like a horse while flagellating him. When Alexander sees this and laughs, Aristotle is humiliated.
*circa 1590s* - Erotic flagellation is recorded in a John Davies epigram (a type of poetry) called “Epigram 33: In Francum”.
*c.1648* - Robert Herrick’s *Hesperides*, a book of poetry, is published. Among the themes are masculine longing for domination, restraint, and discipline.
*c. 1674 - 1702* - “The Cully Flaug’d” (see pic B) is a popular British Museum mezzotint featuring a woman fl_gging an elderly gentleman’s exposed buttocks.
*c. 1740* - Birth of the Marquis de Sade, French nobleman and philosopher (What is it with all these randy philosophers, eh?) whose violent & perverse sexual preferences and erotic writings earn him the ire of the Catholic church, later giving his name to the term *sadism*.
*c. 1761* - Female “Birch Disciplinarians” promoted their services in a book masked as a collection of lectures, titled *Fashionable Lectures*. They would visit the disciplinarian for a “lecture”, or flagellation session. The cost was around one British guinea & 21 shillings (approx. £1.21s , or £1.05 in today's money).
*c. 1840s* - “Houses of Discipline”, flagellation practices distinct from brothels, gain popularity. Practitioners are called “Dominatrix Governesses”, or “female flagellants”.
*c. 1870* - Austrian nobleman and author Leopold von Sacher-Masoch publishes his novel *Venus in Furs*, describing a D/s relationship and giving his name to the term *masochism*.
*c. 1922* - James Joyce publishes his novel *Ulysses*, wherein the main character fantasizes about submission to a lady and receiving wh_pp_ngs from her.
*c. 1950s* - Bettie Page, fetish pin-up model often called “Queen of Pin-Ups” gets her start modeling for erotic photographer Irving Klaw and later, *Playboy*.
*c. 1970* - Monique Von Cleef sets up her dungeon “House of Pain” in the Hague, Netherlands - a city which later becomes the world’s capital for dominatrices.
*c. 1985* - Anne Rice publishes her erotic novel *Exit to Eden*, exploring BDSM in the form of a romance novel under the nom de plume Anne Rampling.
