CuteGiraffe
fansly
🕑 Added 2023-06-20 14:06:10 +0000 UTC
The reason I don’t like venting on here is because I don’t like reading 100 messages of people just telling me to get over it, it’s not that big of a deal, depression is all in my head and everyone goes through it so I’ll be fine. Words like “I’ll support you no matter what I love you” are great but if you start your message off with “you shouldn’t or you should, this is what I’ve learned about depression and what you should do” STOP
That’s NOT helpful to anyone placing what you think you should do onto someone else
Im communicating that my communication will be shit, I was saying I might not be posting a lot for a while, and I was looking for people to listen. 9/10 when someone is depressed or sad or upset they just want someone to listen. But us humans we think we need to fix them and shove 100 words of advise down their brain they didn’t ask for, which is also under a lot of pressure already.
So I’m coming back because I’m feeling much better but I’m ignoring all of the messages that come from “I know better than you” attitudes. If you’re just there to listen great, if you don’t know how to listen to someone (I had to learn to) you don’t have to talk to them when they’re upset.
And if a girl you’re interested in in the real world is having a bad time in life please just listen to her problems don’t try and solve them that will make your dick look 100x bigger ;)
And no more “I read this somewhere and want you to learn” I read soooo much stuff to help me be better, if I just laid around and did nothing when I was depressed I wouldn’t be here lol I try so hard to feel better when I don’t feel good and having people listen and be there is what helps the most
Remember when you were a kid trying to learn or do something and someone came up and just did it for you. It takes away the feelings you get when you accomplish something on your own. It’s a lot different if that person comes up and asks if you need help before they just fix it for you.
