Tips and tricks for shibari beginners
I think the first an..
🕑 Added 2021-02-11 20:08:41 +0000 UTC
Tips and tricks for shibari beginners
I think the first and most important question that needs to be answered is what you need to start with shibari.
And probably my answer surprises you, because I think you only need the right rope as well as the right educational material.
But the "right" partner is not that important, because as long you have yourself you have enough hands to start and even hands you can trust.
Because I read again and again that some of you would like to start with ropes or shibari but the partner is missing.
And of course to tell you the true, Shibari needs on some point a partner but first it needs a lot of practice and this no matter from which side. and still you can learn it alone (of course somehow a bit limited because you need your hands). But it works and I can say it is a lot of fun.
But I think the greater "expectations" or ideas you have the harder it is to get to know the whole thing neutrally and for yourself.
For me, tying and the subject role itself has really shown that it is my fetish. And that is because it is independent of everything. Always belongs only to the moment and creates in itself own relationships. And it makes me feel strong, because I am the one who feels it. Or even makes it.
So if you want to get to know the whole thing, no matter if you are alone or with a partner, I can recommend you as first steps:
1. order real rope (I order mine through learn shibari) don’t order from cheap sexshops
2. look for a course/tutorial online and learn as a first step a single column tie. :) Here is my recommendation make a free guest account for 7 days at Shbari study and then tie every day 😉
On the site there is a wonderful beginner course and just many easier ties, ties with which you can create a lot of freestyle harness or even on the easy floor ties to give/have a real game experience.
And if you then realize, it is something for you, it is really worth investing in education. I can always recommend my rigger Tamandua. He also gives skype lessons :) but he is also a part of Shibari Study. So I think shibari study gives the best overview in the beginning. through the different instructors and courses and with the possibilities to get rid of certain ideas or images and find out what you personally like. Because I think many imagine the beginning much more spectacular.
For example, Dennis and I knot together for almost two years and yet he does not suspend me yet completely.
Because that's another thing I'm often asked, how much “prolevel" suspensions are. And even though I would never call myself a pro, I still believe that to perform a suspension safely you need years of experience and therefore it is really pro level somehow or simply many years of experience.
So here again, detach yourself from the pictures you see on others and just give yourself a chance to get to know and feel the rope. Don’t think about suspension in the beginning because it’s such a small part of shibari, rope or even kinbaku (“artform of Japanese t0rture”)
And in the end even it’s not glamorous but it also has to be mentioned, no matter from which side, it is exhausting and really physical and emotional work. Therefore, be prepared to sweat and to push yourself to your limits, mentally or physically.
And now do you have any questions and should I maybe take some pictures with Dennis how you can play, without much experience but still safe? Everything built on the single column tie :)
And for those who find it aesthetic and want to try it out on themselves, learn a few basic knots, sit in front of the mirror, try it out and create something beautiful.
I hope you like the little video from my self tying ❤️🙈 And of course I would love to get your feedback
