🕑 Added 2022-01-08 01:01:33 +0000 UTC
Clip title: ***Testing Our Cuckold's Pain Tolerance***
Pushing limits is the best part of domination. If I have a sub who needs to be humiliated, my goal is to humiliate him so much that he actually internalizes every word I say. If I have a sub who needs to be put into chastity, I want to keep him locked and denied longer than ever accomplished before, and longer than what he thought he'd be capable of handling. If I have a sub who needs anal training, I'm not finished until he can take the biggest butt plug on the market. And if I have a sub who needs corporal punishment, I'm going to push him so far that his pain threshold becomes reprogrammed.
This is all part of the process of making subs reach their highest potential. Those who can sit with discomfort and channel their discomfort into devotion for their Domme are top-tier submissives. The experience of pain and discomfort is largely mediated by psychological processes.
Let's work with a hypothetical example: Two genetically identical people living identical lives can experience the same chronic disease. Person A panders to their suffering. The interpret their illness as evidence that life is unfair and the world is against them. They give every moment of pain or discomfort significant salience in their daily life. Being sick becomes a leading part of their identity, and thereby live in a perpetual state of victimhood. Person B accepts that illness and suffering is part of human existence. When they feel pain and discomfort, they gently acknowledge it, but understand that these are just bodily sensations. They learn ways to minimize these bodily sensations by doing activities that bring them joy or put them in a state of flow. Their sickness plays an incredibly fundamentally small of who they are and what it means to be alive.
Scientific evidence consistently suggests that people who live like Person B have a significantly greater chance of living longer, healthier lives than Person A, holding all other factors constant. New age spiritualists will explain this phenomenon using terms like manifesting, good vibrations, sending positive energy into the universe. If you're like me and you prefer the tangible, you'll appreciate that there is actually an empirical link between positive thinking and your biology. Experiencing chronic stress disrupts our bodies' immune responses, mostly via the stress hormone cortisol. In constantly drawing attention to their pain and discomfort, then, Person A is actually depleting their body's ability to fight the disease that's causing them distress, hence why they may not fare as well as someone like Person B.
This isn't to minimize the struggle of being chronically ill, or to pretend like pain and discomfort can magically disappear if you change your mindset (it doesn't work that way). But my point is to draw attention to the power of the mind in being able to determine the course or severity of pain, illness, and discomfort. From a Dominant's perspective, this is very crucial information when it comes to training a submissive. I know that the experience of pain is in large part psychological. I know that some subs fear pain so much, and ascribe so much power to it, that it makes the experience of pain so much greater than it needs to be. Their limits are reached so easily because they're so busy pandering to their fears that they indadvertedly make them bigger.
I push my subs to work through this, to take the drama out of pain and reconfigure their relationship with pain as one of servitude. That is, my subs come to accept pain as not something to be afraid of, but as a marker of their devotion to me. How much more can you take for your Goddess? What are you doing to prove to her that you're relinquishing your fear of pain for her pleasure? Are you hyper-focused on the sensation of pain on your body or are you channelling the pain into gratitude for her?
You'd be surprised at how high your pain tolerance can climb when you learn to understand pain not as something to be feared, but rather as a conduit of devotion.
