🕑 Added 2022-01-14 15:03:31 +0000 UTC
Clip title: **Clean-Up Games**
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The thing about lifestyle domination is that it can actually be quite mundane once you've moved past the novelty of owning another human. This is particularly the case for Dommes like myself, who have incorporated submissive men into our daily existence for many years. Of course, it is important that much of the D/s dynamic in a lifestyle dynamic is a bit uneventful, as this is an indicator that things are in flow. Subs are meant to occupy a quiet position in the background of our lives, while continuously endeavouring to contribute in meaningful ways. If a sub cannot absorb into the background then they're not a good candidate for lifestyle femdom.
That said, Dommes have a very specific love of power. So, as much as we appreciate the mundane, we are also dyspathetic to subs becoming *too* comfortable in their positions beneath us. It is forever the task of any lifestyle Domme to allow the D/s dynamic to run with ease without ever letting subs feel fully at ease. In my own practice of lifestyle femdom, I find this balance by punctuating the everyday with the extreme. My submissives do their work in the background, and because many of them are experienced, they do so diligently without requiring a lot of my direct attention. But at any given time I may be inclined to fuck with them a bit. I may allocate an impossible task that they are bound to fail, which would thereby warrant punishment and humiliation. Or, I may stop them as they're working and tell them to degrade themselves for me for my amusement. Even as they complete daily, routine tasks like cooking, cleaning, and running errands, they can never slip too deeply into a comfort zone.
Underlying this method is the shock principle. The shock principle has been applied widely across various social contexts, from CIA-funded clinical psychology experiments in the 1970s, to the more recent political maneuvers where governments capitalize on cataclysmic events like wars, terrorist attacks, or natural disasters to replace socialist economic systems with neoliberal ones. Shock is thereby a critical component of human behaviour on both a micro (read: psychological) and macro (read: structural) level.
The basic tenet here is that shocks can shape and reprogram human thought and behaviour. At face-value, this is actually quite obvious. If you were my house slave who was responsible for all my domestic duties, and I never delivered punishment or only did so at predictable moments, you'd likely sink into a place of comfort. But what if you were my house slave and I delivered punishments and humiliation at completely unpredictable and arbitrary moments? Or that even the *types* of punishments I delivered wildly differed? Do you think you'd be able to ever slip into a comfort zone? Probably not, because I've used the power of shock to reprogram your brain so that you're always in a state of angst, even when there is no objective indication that punishment or humiliation is in your near future. It's a total mind fuck and a simple way for me to keep you subjugated.
Of course, there are different ways you can capitalize on shock. As alluded above, there can be shock in the timing of a punishment or humiliation. It can be given out without warning or reason - entirely unpredictable and arbitrary. Or, there can be shock in the *type* of punishment I deliver. Maybe you spilled a glass of water on the floor, at which point you may expect I'd make you lick it up. But what if instead I dressed you up as a sissy and made you parade around the neighborhood? It is precisely because it allows for endless creativity that I love relying on the shock principle.
Now, when I am training a new house bitch I use punishment and humiliation in more predictable ways versus relying more heavily on shock. That's because new subs needs to be trained into a routine. For example, this sub in this clip is new to cleaning for me. It is in these earlier parts of a D/s dynamic that he needs to learn what my expectations are, and be punished when he fails to achieve them. This is very simple behavioural psychology where good behaviour causes is reinforced by reward, and bad behaviour is deterred by punishment. That said, even in the early stages of slave training, I still leave a bit of an element of shock by not disclosing exactly *what* the punishment is. This invokes a sense of anxiety and urgency in him that will ultimately make him more dedicated to achieving my standards.
But eventually he's going to master my expectations. He will fall into stride and learn to be the best bitch for me without much of my own input. Things will be quieter, easier, which lends to the impression that I've become less restrictive or overbearing. But little does he know that the shock principle is one of my favourite tools in my tool belt, and that the mind-fuck is just beginning...
