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🕑 Added 2023-05-13 17:03:50 +0000 UTC I loooove & appreciate that 99% of the things people say via DMs or comments are kind, supportive and sexy. Maybe 3-5 comments / day on Reddit or the Hub are critical. Most common themes: - Transphobic "oh that's a dude" or "post-op trans, so obvious" - Her noises sound like a seagull - I'm a dude and I have bigger tits than that - I can't stand all the fake moaning - Wtf is wrong with her asshole - Why are those guys so [insert range of insults about costars here] I only occasionally engage with these comments and only if I think it's productive for the purposes of sharing a broader vision. My audience in my response is not the person who made the comment (because they don't deserve the attention), but anyone else reading it. But usually I just ignore them, because I already know the truth. For example: - The way I have sex on camera can be different than the way I have personal sex (especially sex with my husband) but my orgasms and love of fucking are completely authentic. Whatever moans or squeals people take issue with are the sounds of my joy and arousal, so, their loss 😉 - I feel proud of muscle definition, it's the result of rigorous self-discipline and care. It makes me feel strong and healthy, so I don't mind if tiny tits and big muscles makes some people think I look masculine. Also, if I were trans, that'd be cool, too. - I love working with both content creators / models and amateurs, and I don't discriminate based on body shape, dick size, race, gender or age when choosing costars. I care about whether people are kind, reliable and have a good attitude. That's true of people I want to film with and people I want to fuck. Those are the characteristics in humans that I think should be most valued sexually, so I want to produce porn that emphasizes and loves on people for those traits, while including diversity in bodies. I think that helps more people see themselves in my work, and if some viewers have a problem with it, meh, there's plenty of mainstream ripped-ab-long-dick-dude porn out there. The last thing I think about when reading these negative comments comes from a Teddy Roosevelt quote (that Brene Brown, an amazing social scientist who writes about vulnerability and shame, has re-popularized): "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat; who strives valiantly;…who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” I think this applies to creative production AND dating / fucking. If you want to do a scary thing, put your body out there, be with a girl / guy / person, find some sexual or romantic arrangement different than the norm, dare greatly! Ask! Pursue the dream! I believe in you 😘
