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🕑 Added 2021-01-15 07:47:30 +0000 UTC Reminder: Please NEVER ask about seeing me in person here. This includes comments AND messages. OnlyFans has a strict policy against this and you risk my account being deleted. If you choose to ignore this, I am required to report and block you. VIRTUAL GFE The business of porn has changed so much since the 2000s. There used to be a distinction between being a content creator and a service provider, but now there is significant overlap in roles and activities. The virtual GFE has blended fantasy with reality even more so than before. The virtual girlfriend experience (GFE) has become front and centre. I’m very familiar with the term GFE as I worked under that banner when I was an exxxxt. While the acronym is a bit subjective and the definition varies depending on location, it began as a comparison to what was typically offered from the sex workers of the time. The GFE was a warmer and more intimate encounter lasting an hour or more in comparison to short, functional wham bam thank you ma’am encounters. A GFE date would include conversation, cuddling, open mouth kissing and often reciprocal pleasure in sexual acts. Early on service providers (SPs) charged more for GFE but by the late 2000s GFE became fairly standard at most price points. The client’s expectation of more physical intimacy as well as an increase in the demands of emotional labour on the part of the SP made for a new merging of fantasy and reality. Now this GFE energy has been brought into the virtual sex services spaces with the advent of one to one camming, smartphones, social media platforms, sexting, and fan sites. It wasn’t expected from porn performers and explicit content creators. Now it is. This merging of porn with GFE service is something I wasn’t prepared for. This is surprising because in 2008 when I moved from porn to exxxxxing I was a GFE exxxxt. The mix of GFE fantasy with reality is nothing new to me and I see it’s allure. It brings some meaning to transactional encounters and can make for very beneficial experiences for both parties. I have fond (in and out of bed) memories of many of my clients and they of me ( we still stay in touch). What differentiates the in-person and the virtual GFE is time and space. When I exxxxxxd there was screening and negotiation before agreeing upon a date— on both our parts. My website and advertisements went into detail about my personality, interests, style of GFE, and rates. We exchanged emails before meeting to see if we were a good match. During the course of our time together (usually two-hours) I was able to cultivate mutual sexual energy and create a satisfying girlfriend experience. It might look easy but creating a feeling of closeness without the commitment of a relationship is the work of a true sex professional. With virtual GFE services the parameters are different. Things happen very quickly over direct messages that are typically made up of dick pics, emojis and incomplete sentences on the client’s part. Though, most clients are not clients at all. They are folks looking for GFE over text (with photos, video and one to one cam) without wanting to pay more than a handful of dollars if anything at all. Of course, inane requests were sent to all of us as in-person SPs, but it’s on a whole other level for virtual GFE services. The virtual space feels like it’s all-access, all-the-time rushing through eroticism and pleasure to “nut”. It’s definitely doesn’t exist at a pace in which my erotic mind flows. It feels like treating sexuality (mine, yours and theirs) like junk food. So if this is the reality of virtual GFE today, what should I do? I’ve got some ideas. Sexy, fun and authentic to me ideas. More on that in a future entry. * promotional photos from my time as a GFE SP (2012) *
