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🕑 Added 2022-01-04 04:16:21 +0000 UTC The Golden Rule doesn’t quite work in the bedroom, OR in relationships. While well-intentioned for showing kindness and love to each other, there are a couple key pieces missing. First, there’s the unspoken bit about expectations. “You scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours!” may seem fair and logical, but approaching relationships and lovemaking with this mentality creates a lackluster energy that leaves both people wanting. Remember, too, that it’s totally normal and human for one partner to have higher needs of receiving one day over the other. Another gap in the Golden Rule is the losing game of assumptions. For me to think that Ryan WANTS to have done to him what *I* want done to me is quite the assumption. Hint: he doesn’t! Let’s take this deeper, into the kinkosphere. One of the biggest roadblocks and hang-ups we had in the bedroom for YEARS was this belief that we had to be into the same things. But we often aren’t. We have different specific kinks, desires, & curiosities. They don’t always magically sync up; we find or create ways to explore them together. How? Through honest communication, heartfelt conversation, and open-minded negotiation. This allows for less resentment, miscommunication, and disappointment, and more passion, connection, and full-body pleasure. GAME CHANGER. So how about instead of following the Golden Rule, we approach each other with…let’s call it, the True Pleasure Rule. ❤️🔥Be radically honest with yourself about what you want ❤️🔥Make clear, courageous, vulnerable, loving, requests ❤️🔥Establish boundaries for play and exploration (these are fluid, not fixed; revisit often!) ❤️🔥Only give when your are genuinely open to give, and if you aren’t, take a closer look into why ❤️🔥Negotiate, negotiate, negotiate ❤️🔥When uncomfortable feels emerge, learn how to co-regulate and self-regulate More pleasure and REAL connection guaranteed!😉 📸 Tits & Coffee - Creative Studio For Conscious Adults #relationships #sexcoaching
